Not sure I belong here, but do need help with 14 yo DS--long, sorry

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Not sure I belong here, but do need help with 14 yo DS--long, sorry
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Fri, 03-25-2011 - 8:34pm

My son has always been what people call quirky, and I saw Asperger's traits in him early on (my brother has Aspergers, and his 13 yo son has autism), but he never actually qualified for a diagnosis. Up until the end of elementary school, he did well. He wasn't super popular, but he did have some friends, and his teachers all liked him, probably because he was such a black-and-white, rule- following kid.

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I just have to say a few words, first of which is that many, many kids who have Asperger's or PDD-NOS DO have eye contact.

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Registered: 02-28-2008

Where overseas?

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson
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IF we move, and it's a big IF because my husband has yet to get the offer and determine if it's right, we will be somewhere outside of London. His job would be in the city, so we'd need to be within commuting distance. Ideally, I'd like to have both kids in the same school (I have

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Kirsty, euansmum, shows up here about once a week or so.

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson
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Registered: 02-06-2009

I just wanted to jump in and say that I have a not quite aspie who was diagnosed with Aspergers regardless!

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Registered: 06-25-2005

Two of my kids have mild Asperger's.

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Thank you! This is exactly our problem: "They were not able to get ANY accommodations without a diagnosis."

The idea that he is on the spectrum isn't new to me, but it's the first time we've all been discussing it out loud. I think it might be helpful to my son to have an IEP. Even with limited accommodations--small class size, etc.--he might not feel so unsafe at school. I know his school is trying to work with who they think he is, but still, it's a very high-pressure middle school in an affluent area, with lots of jocks and extraverts whose very existence is kind of threatening to him, KWIM?

Every time I send him to that place, I feel like Moses' mother, putting her baby in a basket on the Nile, praying the crocodiles didn't eat him or the current didn't tip the basket over.

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I wonder whether you could get accommodations if your psych were to write a letter identifying that your ds has Asperger's-like symptoms.