Not like a tv show.

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Not like a tv show.
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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 12:35pm

I have a "I love someone with Aspergers" Pic up on my facebook. One of my friends asked if I knew anyone with aspergers (duh). I said my son had been diagnosed in March. She has been around my son many times. She said that she never would have guessed. I laughed and said that was because she doesnt live with him. She said, no she didn't but that there was a kid on a tv show called parenthood that has it and my son doesnt act like him, but maybe I should watch it to get tips on dealing with my son.

WHAT?!?!

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 12:58pm

Sigh. I hear stuff like that all the time.

I do like that show, and it seems very true to some people's experience. But that storyline is the story of one aspie, and as we say around here all the time: If you've met one aspie, you've met ONE aspie. Even in that show, Max's friend, who is (I think) HFA, is completely different to Max and they don't get on all the time.

You may also want to point her to this post (which I wrote)

http://onesickmother.typepad.com/my_weblog/2010/07/10-myths-regarding-autistic-spectrum-kids.html

-Paula

visit my blog at www.onesickmother.com

-Paula

visit my blog at www.onesickmother.com
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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 12:59pm

LOL!

If only life was like a tv show and could be solved in neat 20 minute packets . Real life is much more messy.

If you've met one person with autism, you've met one person with autism.

I'd advise you to just shrug it off and hope the topic doesn't come up again. If it does, by all means, engage in some educational discourse. But I think it just one of those well-meaning but clueless, ignorant, uneducated, and unthinking comments that the uninvolved make. If this is a particularly important friend, you may want to send her some links and loan some books, but if not....
Or you could send her here and we'd educate her, lol.

That being said, I haven't seen the show, but I've heard about it. Even if it creates some misperceptions, at least it creates some perception - it takes autism out of it's dark corner and brings it into the consciousness of the American public.

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson
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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 1:18pm
OT, but: Some of my favorite Asperger like characters on tv are Data from Star Trek TNG, Spock on the original and Sheldon on "Big Bang Theory" Actually, many of the characters are somewhat ASD.
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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 1:59pm
One thing that drove me crazy about that show early on, so I stopped watching it, is that the parents got the "news" that their son had Asperger's from the school counselor, who did testing on him and all signs indicated Asperger's.
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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 3:13pm

I watch the show. I think the boy was having a hard time at school but ultimately it was a specialist who helped them out with a testing, diagnosis and referrals... I remember the scene when the doctor said "You're son has Aspergers.", and the parents were like "Okay, how do we make fix it?". Even the little boy's cousin who wasn't in school yet went to him for testing. I really think it was a specialist like the one we went to...

I didn't think my son was on the spectrum at all either because he didn't sound like the other kids with it... but we all live and learn. :)

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Wed, 09-01-2010 - 11:57am

oh boy, when we first suspected our son, I scoured the internet (alot of youtube) and kept on scratching my head thinking but he doesn't look or act like that???

Well after many doc visits and of course coming here I learned that they all are different.

And then my younger son who is soooooooo opposite than his older brother got the dx and then I really thought, NO WAY. I denied his dx for a year and just thought the doc was wrong and he only had Tourettes Syndrome.

As time went on, and with a second opinion with a new wonderful doc, I finally accepted it. IF you met my two boys you would see they are like night and day. But they are both spectrum and each has their own strenghts and weakness's.

One thing to note. Our wonderful doctor and I were discussing the kids on tv that portray Asperbers. He said almost every character we see fits every criteria that you would check off for a dx. Thats really not realistic. Think Sheldon. He said he is the extreme of extreme and it would be impossible for everyone to look just like him. But the reason TV shows do this is because it's called entertainment. Thats how they pull in ratings because we all know how funny Sheldon is with all of his issue's lol. The other guys on the show make me think that they are more of what a real Aspie looks like.