Oh how I miss the sharing

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Registered: 10-03-2003
Oh how I miss the sharing
Thu, 02-07-2013 - 2:00pm

I feel like our community have been in the spot light, but not in a good way.  Besides feeling sad about the whole mental health issues being highlighted, does anyone feel attacked (for our kids of course) or do you feel scared for the future?  I actually feel both.  My ds is doing varsity basketball now, thanks to the town's recreation department which doesn't exclude anyone, but sometimes I feel all eyes are on me and some of the parents are definitely judging me when he misbehaves and refuses to listen.  However being part of a team for a game that he loves and he is good at helps in a lot and some of the kids are super nice to him, so I swallow my pride and continue to take him -- wish me luck, today is practice which is the most challenging for him because he has to pay attention and listen to directions.  The one hour fifteen minutes practice feels like 24 hours; though he has a good time, I'm completely anxious and can't wait for it to be over.   It is a catch 22 situation.  Anyway, I miss you, please let's start sharing again.



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Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 02-08-2013 - 1:46pm

Hi Grace,

My son is pdd-nos, with aspberger's tendencies. He has an issue with behavior because he's communication disabled so things that would seem like normal, run of the mill comments to us, become cues for him to get defensive/mean. 

I know what you mean about being scared for the future. I hate that they're being pigeon-hold negatively, without any reason other than Kid A suffers from X,Y,Z. I feel like all eyes are on what my kid will do next.

It makes me sad for other parents who are now even more afraid to seek help for their kid because they don't want him/her to be labeled in addition to the stigma that is already associated with special needs. 


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Registered: 06-14-1999
Fri, 02-15-2013 - 6:17pm

We've had similar issues this week with wrestling.  We got called to come pick ds up early wed. because he was having a huge meltdown.  They said he was being overly aggressive.  He said he thought that was the point of wrestling.  I think some of the other kids bully him a bit, and I wish he'd quit, but he wants to stick it out.  He's actually pretty good at wrestling, but he just can't stand to go to a tournament because of the noise.  I'm not sure I like the way some of the wrestling parents act because I think it encourages bullying.  Some parents understand, with others I feel judgement.  Turns out after seeing his psychiatrist yesterday, that he has been dealing with bad side effects to his Strattera that have made him irritable and aggressive and easy to meltdown.  Maybe things will be better now that his dose has been lowered.