Oh My, Embarrassing moments

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Oh My, Embarrassing moments
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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 12:22am

Well, I think tonight was my night to get myself knocked down a few pegs. Either that or God's funny little reminders of how far we have come.

First, Emily was invited over a friends house. The friends mom works so her MIL came up to watch the girls so they could have friends over. WELLLLLL.....I don't know if anyone remembers our first communion fiasco. I always give the kids one party on thier first communion. Through some slip of conscienceness I decided it would be a good idea to split Mike's party with my friend (these girls mom) and have a double one with her older girl. So a double party at my house. WRONG!!!! FIASCO. Mike spent the first hour screaming, tantrumming, kicking his door, etc and the rest of the day was touch and go with a couple minor tantrums. Needless to say we made quite the scene and I had to explain to a house full of guests, half of whom I never met, why my son was being such a poopoo head. Of course, they were pretty clueless about autism and probably were thinking behind thier numb nods "So that is the excuse mom's are using now for naughty boys"

Not thinking anything I go to drop off Emily and the grandma starts to talk to me and who are you and it dawns on her. OH, I know you. We had the first communion party 2 years ago at your house. Insta-red-face. Who me? She was nice and polite but I wanted to crawl under a rock.

THEN................as if one isn't enough, eh?

Tonight is respite night and I went to the library then to get my self a veggie sandwich as subway. I am on my way out and see the one woman and her son who consistently make me want to crawl under a rock. Fortunately I rarely see her. See in 2nd grade through manipulation of others and horrible impulse control, Mike told that boy that his mom (said woman) that she should be murdered, etc etc etc. Well Mike got suspended and that boy was so upset his mom had to come and pick him up from school.

WHERE ARE MY GROUCHO GLASSES!!!!

Renee - who is feeling mighty mighty humble tonight.

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 9:29am

Ugh! I feel so bad for you. One of these encounters is bad enough, but two in one day...
I hope you have an extra glass of wine to compensate.

-Paula

-Paula

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 11:32am

Paula, it is one of those situations where if you don't laugh you would cry. I choose to laugh behind my groucho glasses and pretend it is someone else's life. That is my story and I am sticking with it! Fortunately both of those situations took place over a year ago and the grandma commented on how nice I was to open my house and what a nice time they had. Honestly I spent the entire day trying to keep Mike in a calm place and out of sight. The food was already out and my friend Anne was able to play hostess to her family so other than the first 1/2 hour or so of screams, it is possible they had a nice time.

She did remember Mike though and his differences, so I know she noticed. How could you not? His bedroom where he was tantrumming is right in the middle of the house adn awfully close to the front room. But maybe it was worse for me than for the guests.

I think I got away after subway from that mom and family by ducking my head low and walking very fast.

Renee

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 12:16pm

OOOHHH Renee!!! I would've ducked and walked away really fast too!!!! I wonder what people think too!

Here's some more chocolate!

Michelle

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 1:21pm

Ouch, Renee. I guess we all have to give up being the "popular perfect Mom" when we have a kid with an Autistic Spectrum Disorder. Personally, I always feel a little annoyed at Mom's of NT kids who don't get it when our children lose control. Cassian is just too obviously autistic at this point for me to excuse their attributions about him being a brat.

BTW, you look great in those glasses - - saves having to do a lot of eyebrow tweazing!

Suzi

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 3:00pm

<our kids are not perfect,and neither is anyone else's....
just remember all kids are "brats" and any mom/dad who says otherwise is LIEING!!!!

....every parent has been in your shoes... or will be!!!...

kindergarten was a nightmare, I was always having "meetings" with the teacher, ds did this, he did that,bla.bla.bla....
one mom with a "perfect" child, always had Child raising "tips" for me.....I just wanted to say... here he is... you raise him!!!
but what goes around comes around... Mr.perfect, in gr1 was in the principals office at least once a week, had a 1 day suspension for telling his teacher off, and tryed to run away from home(he was six!!!) the mom, better go and take some more child raising course's,(you know the type!!!)

<<>>> again...
I'm actual looking forward to the start of school... ds, gr2 and dd kindergarten
MY goal is for a stress free year....I can dream...lol....lol

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 3:05pm

ROFL, yeah they are my style.

Well it continued but in an OK way today. Well at least the mom was cool about an incident and we had a great laugh over it. I have been volunteering for school picture days. Well the other mom that was there I find out last year was this one mom who are kids had a bit of a "thing".

It is pretty funny. Her younger son was in Emily's grade. He had a crush on Emily and being a young boy thought the way to take care of that was to say she had to give him $10,000 or his mom the noon duty would give her a pink slip every day for the rest of the year. Well Mike found out and towers over this kid but he perseverated on it and followed the kid for days. Every time he saw him he would admonish the child, how wrong he was, etc. The poor little guy was terrified that mike was going to beat him up! THis boys older brother was in Mike's grade and knew him so told the mom. The mom was mortified at what her younger son did and made him write a nice letter of apology to Emily but was scared of Mike until the older son said, "No, mom, Mike is cool. He transferred to that other class and can get a bit crazy sometimes but he is a cool kid".

Actually it was pretty neat. I guess her son really likes Mike and understands that he is just a bit different. We both wanted our groucho glasses since both our boys did embarrassing things so it was ok.

Renee

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 7:45pm

Good lord...I just keep telling myself I have a couple more years until Ian is in school to prepare myself. These are the stories you will laugh about someday, right? :)

The story about Mike admonishing the kid who had a crush on your daughter is definitely a classic!