Oh! Why didn't I think of that?

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 12:31pm

You may recall last week I posted about how wonderfully David did on his first few days of school, and how terrific his teacher is, etc. Well, Thursday and Friday were not quite as wonderful, but that's to be expected.

So, this morning, David woke up thinking, for some reason, that it was going to be yet another weekend day. He was disappointed that he wouldn't get to play all day at home, and really resisted going to school. We got there on time, but with lots of grumbling and weirdness.

After dropping off David at the place where the big kids listen to the principal's morning message, Nathan and I were on our way to his kindergarten classroom, when David's teacher stopped me. She asked how things were going, which I think is code for, "Should I expect another difficult day with David?" She acknowledged that David has Asperger's, and that it's a bit different for him, but then she asked me if I would please "have a little talk with him and tell him that in the 3rd grade we don't climb under our desks."

Well, as you can imagine, I'm just thunking myself on the head, and saying, "DUH!" In 8.5 years, it never once occurred to me to have a talk with him about appropriate behavior! So that's the answer! Obviously, I'll be talking to him this afternoon when he gets home. After that, I guess I'll be weaning him off his meds. And, well, I won't need this board anymore, of course, but I'll still try to be available to answer any questions. So, there it is. Have a talk with your child about appropriate behavior. I sure wish someone had suggested that back when he was licking the neighbors or throwing his underpants off the balconey.

Grrrmph!

(Oh, and the talk with the teacher make Nathan late for class.)

Evelyn

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 12:47pm

wow! I wish someone would have given me that advice say... 15 yrs ago, then my kids would be perfect and I wouldn't have had to see any doctors or give them any meds or any of the other things we've gone through. how simple was that! GEEZ!

sounds like it will a long year! and I'm sure the teacher will get quite an education!

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 1:18pm

ROLFLMBO!

Ok, I know its not really funny but you've got to laugh or you'll end up screaming.

I had a sort of similar situation on friday. Ds's aide called to tell me even though she and the teacher crossed off 4 of ds's math problems (after completing 2 full sheets) because he was getting overwhelmed and frustrated, she thinks I should try to get him to finish them over the weekend because she thinks the teacher would really like it. I didn't say it but all weekend I kept thinking, "yea, and I'd really like it if he didn't have AS & dysgraphia." I have to cut her a break though because she's brand new and really is trying very hard to learn about AS and what she is supposed to do. And she is really going above and beyond in keeping me informed.

Samantha

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 3:37pm

LOL!


The first few days Liam was in the new spec-ed school the paraprofessional (classroom aide) would bring him at dismissal and for the first few days harped on (politely) about him needing to "follow directions." (I now know that was code for stop being defiant and do as you're told.)


Erm....he has been transferred to this school because he was running out of the classroom at his homeschool and announcing he was "going home," not to mention the fact that he is terrified of academic work as his anxiety dicates don't do it unless it is perfect the first time.

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 4:21pm

You are scaring me! The teacher acknowledges ASD and think a chat from you will solve the problem? Son starts school in 2 days. His last teacher acknowledged ASD and gave him a D in conduct ("it might smarten him up"said teacher). Son attended summer school program that was held in his new school. I thought it would be a good chance for him to meet staff and learn layout of school. The class was four weeks, teacher spoke to me 3 out of 4 weeks about son's behavior. I nodded pleasantly and thanked her for her time. Hopefully he will be so busy with the advanced work that he won't have time to talk back, make fun of other students, correct teacher...because I've talked myself blue in the face.
and he's still not behaving appropriately.Please send a copy of your "little talk " to us. It might become my new novena.

You have more patience than I do. Bless you.

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 5:10pm

Evelyn,


. That's a

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 6:21pm

Oh this sounds like a LOVELY vent thread for an issue we all have dealt with, ROFL.

Now Evelyn (joining the sarcasm train). Why did you not ever talk to your son about his behavior? I mean what do you expect. Now if you just stop accepting that behavior from him and set up some consequences and structure at home he will be fine. He isn't autistic, it is just your parenting. (i was actually told that by a teacher once (exact words) about Cait in 1st grade. Just stood there with my mouth hanging)

My favorite was last year when Cait's AUTISM teacher told me that Cait needed to be held responsible for missing work, etc. OK, how's about the teacher be held responsible for providing the education and modifications she needs because of her executive dysfuntion so she can do and hand in the work. HELLO!

I have actually been known to get snarky right back at them so it is rarely a problem anymore.

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 7:55pm

Evelyn, oh my word girl you are making me laugh!


"Peice of cake" was the phrase Isaac's teacher used today.

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 8:52pm

Man, oh, man, the time and money I have wasted when all I needed was a talk about appropriate behvior. I swear, where has my head been all these years? We coulda been swimming in more real estate by now. Taken cruises, bought jewelry.

My favorite this year from idiot pop-tart school psychologist, when discussing an upset at ds' favorite diner with TV which was showing World Cup on all screens and wouldn't change them for him, even though noone was watching 3 of the screens -- Gee, do we think ds got a little defiant? Here we go, and this is a special needs school psychologist, mind you (drum roll, please) "Well, you know, he's just gonna have to get over that kind of thing!!"

Can we stand in a moment of silence, please.

Sara
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P.S. Whenever that cake and chocolate syrup wants to show up, I've already started on the Amaretto!!!

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 10:39pm

anytime!


Billy's Vanilla, Vanilla Cupcakes


Makes about 30 cupcakes


1 3/4 cups cake flour, not self-rising


1 1/4 cups unbleached all-purpose flour


2 cups sugar


1 tablespoon baking powder


3/4 teaspoon salt


1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, cut into 1-inch cubes


4 large eggs


1 cup whole milk


1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract


Billy’s Vanilla Buttercream frosting & colored sprinkles for decorating


1. Preheat oven to 325°. Line cupcake pans with paper liners; set aside. In the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the paddle attachment, combine flours, sugar, baking powder, and salt; mix on low speed until combined. Add butter, mixing until just coated with flour.


2. In a large glass measuring cup, whisk together eggs, milk, and vanilla. With mixer on medium speed, add wet ingredients in 3 parts, scraping down sides of bowl before each addition; beat until ingredients are incorporated but do not overbeat.


3. Divide batter evenly among liners, filling about two-thirds full. Bake, rotating pan halfway through, until a cake tester inserted in the center comes out clean, 17 to 20 minutes.


4. Transfer to a wire rack to cool completely. Repeat process with remaining batter. Once cupcakes have cooled, use a small offset spatula to frost tops of each cupcake. Decorate with sprinkles, if desired. Serve at room temperature.


Note: Recipe courtesy of Billy Reece of "Billy’s Bakery”


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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 11:03pm

Evelyn......I think your son's teacher and my son's teacher are related. After son's first day of 3rd grade.......mind you, this is a brand new school to him......I got an email that stated son was "squirmy and chatty"......."I need to remind him not to talk out of turn and to stay in his sit".........DID SHE READ HIS IEP? or what about the 3 pages of suggestions from his previous teacher or the 5 pages from the Positive Education Program consultant.....I KNOW she didn't read his 38 page FBA or the behavior plan the Behavior Intervention Specialist wrote up......

I should get going and TALK to my son about appropriate behaviors as well......

Christie

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