One benefit of having AS (funny)

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Registered: 11-07-2004
One benefit of having AS (funny)
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Fri, 08-11-2006 - 8:53am

Our kids were absolutely driving my dh crazy the other night. He sent them both to bed. Then I proceeded to tell him how he was really overreacting. So, he calls them back out and has them sit on the couch and begins to lecture and drive home his point. It was awful, I just wanted him to shut up, my daughter had the look on her face that said "Please, will you just shut up already". My AS son is just sitting there amongst the chaos and so forth. I look at him and ask him how he feels, he says "Good". Then I look at dh and tell him "Your son feels good right now". I try to point out to dh when I see things that are so AS because sometimes I think he doubts this a bit. So, dh says "I think he just means he feels good as in not sick". So, I ask ds if he is happy or sad or how he feels. He says "I am happy"!

I begin to laugh! I am thinking how much I had a little asperger's once in a while. The whole turmoil and lecturing and so forth didn't even affect him.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sat, 08-12-2006 - 11:04pm

I know what you mean. My boys have been playing computer games today, and they tend to get kind of obnoxious with it. The oldest, my AS child, pushes his brother out of the way and "takes over". His brother, on the other hand, jiggles his brother's chair and pokes at the keyboard. On top of that, they constantly want their dad to see everything that happens on the screen. Well, just a few minutes ago, I could hear that DH was getting pretty fed up with the bickering, etc., and when David said, "Dad, look! Look!!! LOOOOK!!!!! YOU DIDN'T LOOK!!!!!" DH kind of lost his temper and started shouting that he's sick of jumping up and down like a jack-in-the-box to look at this game that you two have been fighting over, and why do I even bother giving you two a treat if you are just going to bicker and not let me have a moment's peace, etc.

NOW, when *I* was a kid, if my folks had talked to me like that, I'd get all teary and feel upset. It made me feel bad to be yelled at or spoken to in an angry way. Nathan, my NT son, kind of sulks a bit, but David just goes on as if there's no problem at all. If he's feeling tense, he might respond negatively to the added tension, but it doesn't seem to be a matter of feeling bad because his dad (or anyone) is unhappy with him. Does that make sense?

Evelyn