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|Thu, 04-07-2011 - 1:20am|
I don't know if I'll get much response to this since I haven't really been here before except to lurk but I could really use some input/suggestions/something/experiences. This may get long so please bear with me.
My 13yr old son has been diagnosed with ADHD, LD, ODD, PDD/NOS, Bi-polar, sleep disorder, and is currently being evaluated for Asperger's. He's had difficulty in school since Kindergarten (6th grade now) and I've had to fight for most of that time to get him the assistance he needs. He's been hospitalized 3 times and is currently in a residential facility because he had become dangerous to himself and others. He's starting to make a little progress on his physical aggression but is still having a lot of trouble with his school work. Oh, he also stutters which gets worse depending on his stress level. He's had difficulty in school since the beginning and has developed a coping mechanism. Sleep. As soon as it's time to start a subject he isn't good at or doesn't like, or is bored by, he'll lay his head down and fall asleep. He also does this in other situations that he doesn't want to be in, such as therapy or when I'm talking to hin about what's going on at school, etc. I don't know if it's easier for him to just fall asleep than to sit still long enough to get the work done, or what. Anyway, if an aide is sitting right with him, he'll get his work done but if he's required to do it on his own (even if it's something he can do), he either just doesn't do it or he lays his head down and falls asleep. I'm looking into pushing the school board to try and get a one-on-one aide for him so that the work will get done. I talked to one person at the school board office and was told that it would be nearly impossible to get the aide approved and that most of the kids with an aide tend to use it as a "crutch". Okay, I get that. But, if the work gets done with the aide/crutch, isn't it worth it? I don't want him to need an aide all of his life but he's always been very dependant on me or someone else to always be there for him. Nothing gets done without constant reminders or being right there with him. Does it not seem that they would want him to pay attention and get his work done, thus LEARN? Why (besides $) would they deny even a "crutch", if that's what a kid needs to succeed? I know it's not the ideal situation. I'd love for him to be able to do it on his own and get it done without someone having to be right beside him. For him to be a "typical" child. That's just not the case. I guess I'm hoping that by getting the aide, he'll eventually get to the point of feeling that he really can do it alone and not need it any more at some point. Either way, I want him to succeed, to do the best that he can, even if he needs help to do it.
Okay, this got longer than I though it would but hopefully (if any of you got to the end, lol) you'll understand my point. Would you push for 1/1? Do you think it's ridiculous to even ask for it? Ideas? Suggestions?