OT-gf is pg, I am annoyed

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OT-gf is pg, I am annoyed
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 4:52pm

OK, this is totally OT. One of my best friends from Md just emailed me with the news she's pregnant. And I feel all p-o'd about it. She has a brillian 6 year old and a 4 year old with severe dev delays. Not ASD, but MR (IQ 70), anger issues, and essentially the developmental peds, geneticist etc can't figure it out.

Just the other day we were chatting on the phone and she was nearly in tears over her ds's issues and how she really should bring him back to the dev ped (she struggles with that). Now suddenly she's pg and I am so worried this is an emotional escape from reality. First of all she's playing genetic Russian Roulette (I know I did, and I can tell you I shan't again, we're done), but forgotten in the mix of new baby et al; and what if the new baby is like her ds. Afterall they have no clue as to what her ds is really dealing with, how her chances increase for having another baby with MR.

I am trying to get my head in a good place, as I certainly don't want to talk to her and have this crap in my head. I want to be a good friend, supportive, understanding and excited for her. Why am I feeling so frustrated?

Dee (very discombobulated)




Edited 9/21/2007 5:10 pm ET by roanmom
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 7:52pm

Dee,


You are still reeling from Cian's DX and you cannot seperate that from her crap and even less-so; her good news.


You need to pull back. Take a deep breath and ...let it out slowly.


Don't say a word. You need to put time and space between your own sh!te and your friend's happy news. I know it is hard to be happy on someone's behalf when you think they are making a huge mistake (you should have

-Paula

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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 8:01pm

Hugs Dee, and everything that Paula said with a cherry on top!


My first thought was Cian, and the stuff you are going thru mentally with his dx.

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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 8:48pm

Ta girls,

yeah I pulled back a bit and when we talked today I was "THRILLED" for her. It didn't help that I found out she had the OB I had gotten rid of due to his inappropriate behavior (language etc), but she is still 600 miles away etc. I am planning to send flowers tomorrow as I really am so happy for her and her dh, and like you all said, I need to separate this and Cian.....man you all need a degree in psychotherapy, lol.

Dee

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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 11:30pm
that paula's a smart one isn't she. I think we shall keep her
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 11:54pm

would that make me a kept woman?


-Paula

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Sat, 09-22-2007 - 2:44am
LOL!!!!!
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Sat, 09-22-2007 - 3:00pm
Well if I must. But you lie on the eating thing. Ok maybe you don't each much but your diet is a pain in the butt. I guess as long as you are house trained we will keep ya.
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Sat, 09-22-2007 - 3:43pm

Paula-


Tell Jim I'll trade Scout for yourself (but mind you the dog isn't reallyall that housetrained;)