Our Aspie has a Girlfriend!!!
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| Fri, 03-23-2007 - 4:48pm |
Our 9 year old son has a girlfriend! This young lady has had a crush on him since last year, and he always said that she was "lovely" but I was shocked to hear that our money-hording aspie actually bought her a snack at the roller rink (post-standardized testing skating party) AND gave her money for video games! Today he admitted that they were a couple.
The totally cool part is that Noah is very open about his Aspergers with his classmates. He read them the book "All Cats Have Aspergers Syndrome" a couple of weeks ago. So not only does this little girl know he's an Aspie, she doesn't care. In fact, she helps him clean out his desk every couple of weeks because she knows how hard that is for him.
When I asked him if the other boys had girlfriends he said, "No. They're always mean to the girls...guess that makes me smart for knowing to be nice to them!" HOOOOOOORAAAAAY! He gets it!
Just had to share~
Amy


Hey Amy,
That rocks!!! HOOORAAY!!! And she gets him, can't get better than that, you know.
I think our 9-year-olds may have alot in common. Malcolm has been pretty true to his sweetheart for over 3 years, although I think their love may be cooling a bit now. They are still, however, very good friends. And they do still refer to each other as "boyfriend-girlfriend".
Plus he has gotten interested in other girls now, one in his social skills group, one he met on the playground. And sometimes 23 - 25-year olds he smiles at winningly on the subway...
Sara
Aww, that is too sweet! BTW, my mom got Hayden the same book for Christmas. It broke my heart when I read it, I was crying like a baby. Great book.
Chrissy
How darn cute! Emily has a "boyfriend" too and is 9. Must be that age, lol.
Mike, well the only girl in the world for him is mom, though there have been plenty of interested girls, lol.
Renee
I bet you're right Sara...our boys probably do have a lot in common! Especially since you and I have both have "theatrical" backgrounds. (Man what I wouldn't give to be getting paid to perform again!) Noah LOVES to flash his dimples and bat his incredibly long lashes at cute ladies.
Amy
That's interesting that the book made you cry, Chrissy. Perhaps it's because you're still somewhat new to this "world"???
We've been dealing with ASD's for 6 years now, so the book made everybody in our family laugh our heads off! In fact, it was another Aspie mom who showed me the book. She and I used to work together and the local B&N. When I walked in around Thanksgiving time she said, "Oh! You have GOT to see this book!" Then the two of us stood in the middle of the aisle and laughed hysterically. But like me, she's been an "Aspie mom" for quite a while.
Amy
Renee~
I'd be interested to know if Emily's "boyfriend" has any issues...it seems to me that my NT always likes the boys who need extra support. For example, her first crush was on a little boy who, although smart as a whip, has some significant ADHD tendencies. (I say tendencies because I don't know that he's been Dx'd.)
I think it's her natural maternal instincts. Kind of like the kid who wants to bring home the bird with the broken wing and nurse it back to health. She gets it from me. That's exactly what made me fall in love with my DH. His mother had made darn sure that he had nooooo self-esteem, and I could see immediately how amazing he was. (Of course, back then, we didn't realize he was an Aspie.) In wanting to help him realize how great he truly was, I fell in love with him. ;-)
Amy
Yes, we've only "known" for I'd say about 9-12 months, and Hayden got his dx in December.
Chrissy