Our first suspension...so pissed

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Registered: 08-10-2006
Our first suspension...so pissed
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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 1:57pm

Hi gals,


Forgive me if I am a little pissed here....they actually suspended Nick for a day from school today.

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Christine

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 7:56pm

The sad thing abou it is that not only is the teacher setting Nick up for failure. By singling him out that way she is teaching the other kids that it is okay to single out Nick too. The best example I see is the other kids doing the name calling.


In kindergarten one of the biggest lessons to be learned is how to play with others and tolerance of each other. Including respect, and understanding. If Nick is to have any success in school, it has to start at the kindergarten level. For the other kids to accept Nick as part of the crowd and to well just know what is his case.

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Registered: 08-10-2006
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 9:08am

Hi Nora,


I spoke with the school psyc before school started (about 2 weeks before) and we agreed to give it a try and see how

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Christine

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Registered: 03-07-2007
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 9:49am

Gosh, I wonder where's the 'zero tolerance' bulling policy?

I know you said that things got bad in the last three weeks. Sounds as if the honeymoon period is over and this teacher has not set up structure or positive supports in the classroom for any of her students. Don't beat yourself up about your decision too see how things would go. This teacher is a bully herself and effectively empowers the bullies in her classroom by her own behavior. How could you have known that? I would not be afraid to bring up the teacher's inappropriate behavior and the bullying to the Principal. Teachers such as this give all the good ones a bad rap.

Deb

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 10:11am

Hi Nick's mommy,

As you may know, we are not the best resource for any type of mainstream school, as we have always had Malcolm in small private special needs schools and now homeschooling due to lack of appropriate programming and services, also overwhelming sensory experiences our public schools are. But I want to send you ((((((hugs))))), and we HAVE had teachers who really didn't "get" it with him, and actually the worst offenders in our drama were a school psych and a principal of a said private special needs school!!!

Get those boxing gloves out, send the letter explaining why there must be immediate evals and support, at the same time call for a meeting with the teacher, special ed team and principal ASAP and maybe even get an advocate to go with you, that may not cost you so much and I would go in protected. As a parent, your emotions are going to make this all more difficult. I wish we had had an advocate at our last meeting with the school, but as we had always had good working relationships with our teams previously, I had no idea what we were in for that time and looking back, I feel silly for having trusted them...

BUT as always, the well being of your child comes first and foremost, and even though Malcolm went through some rough rough times and it took him awhile to recover and learn, in the long run it is all working out, even for the best. OK, now I can say that. Malcolm has learned SO much about controlling his temper and what makes him tick being home this past year, working with professionals. School learning is just not necessarily all it is cracked up to be, and there are so many factors involved.

Just know in your heart that with parents like you as his base and support, he will be just fine. And he will get an education, no natter how he gets it!! Good luck, Good luck to all the fine ladies in the trenches with schools right now, we do have our numbers here, don't we? This is about the right time for it, though, as the initial homeymoon is over and the real needs start to show up particular to that classroomand teacher and kids, so don't worry about your "wait-and-see" start. You couldn't have known what to even ask for since he hadn't been at this school before or even IN elementary school, and now you are starting to learn what he will need. Also, you will be finding out if this school will be friend or foe, remember always you and he have legal rights, but of course see if they can be brought about as part of the team FIRST. They do not know your son and his needs at this point, that's real clear, but they will. Oh yes, they will. Or else you will be getting them to know other ways...

More (((((HUGS)))))

yours,

Sara

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Registered: 11-13-2003
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 12:02pm

The teacher and principal are a complete nightmare!

Molly
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Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 4:53pm

They suspended a kindergartner??!?!!?!

 

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