Own up. Who has ADD or ADHD?

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Own up. Who has ADD or ADHD?
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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 1:50pm

Own up. Who has ADD or ADHD?



  • One parent is diagnosed with AD/(H)D
  • Both parents are diagnosed with it
  • One parent probably has it (undiagnoseD)
  • Both parents probably have it (undiagnosed)
  • One parent has a diagnosed ASD
  • Both parents have a diagnosed ASD
  • One parent probably has an ASD (unDXed)
  • Doth parents probably have ASDs (unDXed)
  • One or both parents has a different disorder
  • We are both totally NT!


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-Paula

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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 1:55pm

Somebody mentioned that her DH was a poster child for ADD, so I thought I'd check how many parent DXes we have on the board. Just curious!

I officially have ADHD-I and SID BTW. I was DXed with ADHD in Dec, and kind of unofficially DXed with SID a couple of years ago (not a lot of peopole recognise it as an adult condition), backed up in January.

-Paula

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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 2:13pm

Doth? Who is Doth? (hehehehehehe - That was an Ong. HOnest it wasnt me!)

Umm, how bout one has undx ADHD and the other undx ASD......hmmmmmmm. Or maybe we are both NT but what does that really mean.....lol

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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 7:50pm

Interestingly there are no votes for "both NT" so far.

Doth:

That ong doth better behave itself, or I will doth kick it in it's doth bum.

-Paula

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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 9:31pm

I think I took the question wrong when I saw parent LOL. I thought you meant my parent. I'm sleepy, sorry.

But I voted one parent having Asperger's undiagnosed. Learning about all these terms now, I really believe my mother to have Asperger's. She misses social clues alot, is in her own world and has trouble following you and listening to what you are saying. She is a nice lady, but doesn't have a clue lots of times. I see my daughter being like her a lot.

But to answer the poll, neither DH or I have Asperger's or ADHD or anything else. I do have anxiety and SID however.

Debbie

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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 9:58pm

Honestly, is anyone NT at all?!?! LOL!


Isaac's bio dad (aka the sperm donor) is undx, I'm guessing ASD somewhere (probably Asperger's).

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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 10:08pm

Debbie,

I think I have one friend who is completely NT. She has no kids!

Interesting about the BP. My sister was just DXed BP, and they were not completely sure about me for awhile. I definitely have some mood involvement, but not enough for a DX.

-Paula

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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 10:30pm
Actualyl in some respects this is a topic that upsets me.

 


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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 10:52pm

oh Honey, don't be too hard on yourself.

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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 11:15pm

I just went to the doctor last week and got a script for Wellbutrin. I think I have ADD, I know I had really uneven development. In 3rd grade I was the last in my class to learn multiplication, had a horrible time with algebra, but excelled in geometry and anything spacial. I write well and I "see" language. I love language. When I think, I think in pictures and when people talk to me I "see" images of what they are saying to me. Words have texture and size and color. So does music. I tend to think of music as having texture, depth, dimension. I can also have a really, really good time by myself. I'd often rather be alone than with other people, although I do enjoy other people.

I think I'm the one who said my DH is a posterchild for ADD. He is, but he is such a dear, sweet man. He's just absent minded and forgetful, he gets deep in his own thoughts. He does tend to talk at me instead of to me and I think he has some Aspie tendencies, as I do. I think we are both on the spectrum with ADD, PDD, possibly Asperger's. I look down my husband's family tree and see Aspie tendencies all over the place. I look down my family tree and see a lot of OCD, depression, possibly bi-polar. I think what's why we waited until our mid 30's to have kids. We were so scared of our gene pool, LOL! But gosh, that urge to have kids and raise them, love them, watch them grow up -- that took over and we had to have kids. I know better than to try to have a lot of kids though. Two is my limit.

Kelly

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Tue, 04-11-2006 - 12:34am

Ong doth never behaves! So there!

As for traits and such, those that are nervous about such things and passing down to kids. Well, for one thing everyone has some autistic traits or ADD type traits. I think when we have children with the full blown disorder it makes us more sensitive to those differences in ourselves and anyone else. Who is truly NT? Well my guess would be anyone who's "traits" don't affect thier lives to the point of disorder. Some level of difference should be allowed and even embraced. If not then there would be no Albert Einstein, Bill Gates, Tim Burton, etc.

Also, common with these differences is extreme giftedness. Many gifted folks have thier fair share of quirks, that is for sure! And the mindset of a person with ADD. Well if they can focus that energy, they are really incredible people. Miss Paula, our resident diagnosed ADHDer may not want to admit it, but she has done some incredible things and has some incredible abilities that perhaps a bit of her ADHD is to blame for.

DH and I both have our definite lists of differences. I know I have enough ADHD traits that if I wanted to push it I would be diagnosed but I have learned to modify my life enough to cope with my ADHD most of the time if I am not overly stressed. My DH has a fair bit of AS traits. He has some other issues and medication but no official AS diagnosis. He insists he is not. He also is learning coping strategies now, but his differences and our life really affected his ability to function well for years.

The difference is when these traits affect our ability to function in life. It is tough when we see our kids struggle so much. Are differences noticed more now? Are there more of them? Who knows, but it is not our fault anymore than it is my parents fault that I have bad eyesight. Plus I know a ton of folks out there who are down right monsterously quirky and have typical kids.

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