oye, Anyone got some wine?

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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 6:50pm

I had to sit down here and vent for a minute before I took my bad day out on the kids anymore. My temper is short with them currently so I am sitting here with a beer cause I am out of wine and decompressing before going back into the thick of things.

My day started with a phone conversation with the new autism idiot for Mike's school. She gives me the "I don't know if you have ever heard of Tony Attwood, but..." and proceeded to treat me like some knucklehead parent who knows nothing. I had to make sure she knew at least a bit that I knew what I was doing. I guess overall the call went ok, but I got alot of attitude and know-it-all-ness from her and I am not sure she is going to be of any use what so ever.

Next, I got a call from Cait at lunch. Some other 6th grade twit pushed her to the ground in the lunch line because she wasn't moving fast enough and broke one of her brackets on her braces. Her aide was out today. She went to the office and called me because she didn't know what to do. Didn't go to the noon duty, the nurses office, her ASD teacher, no one there she trusted. She called me which is nice an all by why aren't they protecting my girl! I was 40minutes away at work.

Finally I end my day with a pink slip in Mike's backpack because he hit some kid at school today. He hasn't done that in months. He hit me(2 times) and Cait this weekend and he hasn't done that in a long time either. His aide said he was off all day today.

Then right after school we had to drive to the orthodontist to get Cait's broken bracket off and Mike and Cait were at each other being unkind nearly the entire drive. So by now I have had enough. It is time for my beer and to catch up on the latest.

Renee

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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 8:02pm

Dear Renee,

I am having a glass of chilled zinfindel as we speak, thanks to the power of suggestion from reading your post. Sending some via cyberspace to share with you, and oh, would you also like some brie and crackers? DH apparently thinks I need a high fat pick-me-up, as this was waiting for me when I got home from work today, nice guy. And he's having some, too, so join us and make it a party!

Bummer day, man. Whazzup with Mikie? What did he think that kid did first whereby he needed to be hit? LOL

And big bummer about Cait. What, noone was there, no grownups, Cait can just get knocked to the ground in lunch line and noone comes to help? or she didn't want help from anyone but you, Malcolm might do that if he were deeply upset. And is anything happening about the kid who pushed, like, is there a no bullying policy there at middle school, and what happens to offenders? Sheesh. Maybe send her to school in full body armour?

Is the Autism Idiot manipulate-able, do y'think, like if you act uninformed and word things so they all seem like her ideas, you might get action out of her? I used to work with a theatre co-producer like that for a year or two, she had great connections but no actual capabilities to DO anything, so we would give her assignments that were "her ideas", then actually initiate and make everything happen for her on the theory that she was too overwhelmed, which she couldn't be 'cuz she didn't DO anything... You get the drift. We did also let her have half the credit. AND ... we did get to use all her connections.

Thanks for the WTG for Malcolm the Baseball Star. Today he had his first mini-meltdown at school since going on the Zoloft, but the teacher said he recovered fairly quickly. He (ahem) was trying to get out of an assignment he didn't want to do. Me thinks he has also learned a few bad habits which now need to be unlearned... No screens tonight, by golly.

Thinkin' of ye,

Sara

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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 8:25pm

I think my favorite country singer Terri Clark says it best with "I think the world needs a drink".

I hear ya on that one dear old friend. I had Austin's preschool transition meeting today and the new school district chair was a pill to put it nicely.

I need something red, sweet and chilled...Valerie

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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 8:47pm

Geeze I know that feeling. The worst part of the day is right as I'm cooking dinner and right after dinner. I really just want everyone to go away and leave me alone! A glass of wine really does go a long way to help chill me out too.

Cheers

Chrystee

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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 10:22pm

Yum. Great idea. The power of suggestion and bad influences. I now have a glass of vino (thanks Renee) and rosemary olive-oil potato chips (thanks Sara).

Are they taking any action against that kid who pushed Cait down? If not, just find me his address, and i'll send some of The Lads around );) No need for the address, actually. They will show up at school for an extra few pints of Guinness (The Lads are mortally afraid of teachers -especially nuns, and need additional Courage for schools).

They are not afraid, however of Autism idiots...

Just something to think about ;)

I'm sorry you had a bad day. sometimes kids and events conspire to make one miserable Funny that it usually happens at the same time every month. Call John and have him pick up a bottle of two buck chuck on the way home. (thats the thing I miss about CA, -though I've never had any!)

-Paula

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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 10:49pm

I wish I could have a glass of wine! I started taking Zoloft a few months back, and I am supposed to stay away from alcohol. Sigh. Things have been tough around here lately, too.

You know, my 6-yo son likes to have me help him with things that distress him, too. Quite often, when I go to pick him up at daycare, I will come in the room and he’ll burst into tears. Sometimes it is kind of embarrassing. Evidently, my ds will not give any clues that his feelings have been hurt earlier in the day. It is when he sees me that he will finally express himself. Guess I am ‘safe’. Usually, he is upset because another kid said something ‘mean’ or looked at him the wrong way. I usually cannot see what is so ‘mean’ about some of the things other kids say – but they strike my ds the wrong way.

Our latest struggles have been due to my ds’s Dad getting engaged and having the gf move in. Seems like after my ds has been with his Dad, I see a big escalation in misbehavior. My ds hardly ever hit me before, but now his hitting, scratching, pinching and kicking happens so often. I am getting pretty tired of it. Sometimes I can find ways to get him out of his bad mood – sometimes I can’t. The past few days have been pretty bad ones. Tonight, when my ds read a text message his Dad sent, he got mad and kicked some toys and said he didn’t want to see his Dad. He was too mad at him. Not too sure what to do for him. We’ll have several days when he seems to be improving and then have a few bad ones in a row.

Well – I hope everyone out there can hang in there! Hopefully things will continue to improve.

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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 10:51pm

(((((((((((((((renee))))))))))))))))))


I'm not a drinker myself, but even that makes me want a beer!

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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 11:27pm

I'm so sorry. It's days like these that make me think maybe I shouldn't be a teetotaler. I'm impressed, however, that you know your limits and take a break rather than taking it out on the kids like I'm too often inclined to do.

I hope tomorrow's better for you!

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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 12:25am

TY TY TY all.

It is always nice to know I can sit at the puter and have a virtual drink with my friends and sympathy from those who don't drink.

My night is so much better. DH had the kids while I went to the local ASA meeting to present the summer camps my work is doing. It was a round table with lots of other camps and presenters from the area around. Those who have been in autism stuff awhile know that it is a fairly small community and you get to know everyone pretty quickly. Well, I had some fun with some autism knuckleheads that I knew. (evil laugh). Just one of those typical social things where you pretend to be nice to each other and I was in a particularly evil mood. Anyway, lets just say I had fun.

Paula, thanks for the use of the Lads. I will have to find out who the culprit is and stock up on my guiness!

No there were no adults around. You guys go on a middle school campus during lunch or just before or after school. It is a scary site to behold. There are a few noon duties (like 2-3) to watch 500+ kids who are in various areas of the campus at one time so stuff gets missed. Most kids have the social skills to take care of themselves and the noon duties make sure no one is sneaking drugs or getting into fights. I will have to make a stink and get her aide out there again like I did in the beginning of the year. She had a couple male friends she was hanging out with and things were going well but I really think they need to supervise her more during those times.HOwever, if a strange adult shows on campus without a visitor badge the noon duties are ALL over them like flies on poo. I know. It has happened to me just picking up Cait when she was at lunch or dropping her off.

As for Mike hitting, my guess is the kid was there. He had a rough PE and this was in line just after. He couldn't let what ever was bugging him in PE go I guess.

Thanks again all!

Renee

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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 4:43pm

I know, I'm kinda late in posting this....sorry, Renee!

I hope you're feeling better today. Nathan has still been the same. I'm trying to stick to the schedule and give tons of notice before changing anything!!!

How's Cait doing today? I can't believe they didn't have someone to help her! And I'm sorry to hear about Mike too. I know he's been off a bit too. Anyway, just wanted to give you some hugs, and let you know I'm here and reading the posts....even though I might be late in responding!!!!

michelle