Please help me to understand...

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Please help me to understand...
Sat, 10-09-2010 - 10:29pm

DS is in a social group this fall with several ASD children already in school.

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Sun, 10-10-2010 - 10:13am

We have had our son at schools for children with learning differences, and they (in our case) do NOT lump all kids together with different needs but instead place them in groups where their needs are more similar.

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 3:41pm
Hi. The private school IS the school for high functioning autistic kids, and we have also had him at other private schools that were for children who needed small classes. I find that there is a misunderstanding in the world, there seems to be an opinion that kids on the spectrum can't learn how to socialize and behave from each other, but that is just not true. In many ways, it is a good way for them to learn, as they are not ostracised by the other kids for being different and are working with kids who are closer to where they are. Dr. Gutstein of the RDI program for development of children on the autistic spectrum specifically recommends that kids work with other kids that are in a similar place so that they are not so far behind each other in interaction and conversation and can grow together. Our ds has friends that are NT that he sees outside of school and does some afterschool programs with NT kids, but for him school needs to be a place where he is very much understood and taught by methods that work best for him.

Of course every child is different, but our son cannot be in a large class because his auditory sensitivities make it too hard for him to follow what is going on. When he gets confused or misses an important piece of information (which happens easily), he can become quite defiant.

Our story is fairly long and complicated, we had him in several different schools when he was younger that really didn't work out, and this one is by far the best one for him now that he is older (13). The school is challenging and yet understanding, treating him as the young teen he is and requiring him to be independent, yet teaching him executive functioning skills, working on social skills and behavior. also teaching the kids self-advocacy and to understand how their autism affects them.

Recently I had the pleasure of getting to watch my son with his classmates at a party playing baseball with NT kids and then all sitting at a table eating pizza and laughing and joking, teasing each other and talking about girls. You couldn't tell the difference in those boys (except the ASD kids were not QUITE as good at the baseball lol)


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Mon, 10-11-2010 - 9:26pm


I was just popping over here and saw this.

I teach Kindergarten and attend many pre-school and K IEP meetings.