"Please try and keep up"

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"Please try and keep up"
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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 6:36pm

Ok gals, help me regain control before I knock someone at the school over the head with a nasty-gram email.

I was going through Mike's work tonight and he had a grade sheet in there for his reading group from the teacher. Over all his grade was ok and then was the remark "Michael, please try and keep up with your group".

THis is a kid who's fluency on his triennial testing was in the very low range (1st percentile)! I guess if he just TRIES harder he will work faster. That after a comment today that he did his math in 5 minutes in study hall (more like 15 by his teacher but this is after he had worked for 1 1/2 hours on the same stuff the night before).

I am sick of beating my head on the wall with this teacher.

Then to add to my frustration, his aide has been out all week. His teacher went with him on Monday, checked on him frequently on tuesday but was at a conference today. He was on his own. He did GREAT for him but he came home WAYYYYYYy stressed. You could see it all over his face. He has had enough.

His homework isnt in his folder, his things aren't where they should be and unless I make tonight really easy on him, we are in for a heck of a night.

Poor dude.

Renee

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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 7:19pm

*COMFORT*

Passing you a gallon of wine and whatever will make Mike feel better!

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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 7:21pm

Renee,


I am the last person to ask to hold you back, because I am ready to go in there swingin' on your behalf with The Lads in tow,

-Paula

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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 7:34pm

Wow, that remark is just soooo wrong. Kinda mean even. I'm just sitting here shaking my head.. what was she thinking?

Regarding the aide, can't they get a backup or something? Do they have any floaters or someone who can split their time between Mike and another student. someone he may know and be familiar with?

It brings up something I really never thougth of before. When a teacher is out, they call a sub. If the aide is out, what is the plan? I know you can't call in a complete stranger to be a aide, but you would think they would have some backup plan.

Hang in there!

Kate

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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 8:23pm

Or plan B:


Send her a note back:


"Please try and teach"


-Paula

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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 10:32pm

Oh yikes!

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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 10:33pm

I like Paula's idea about reporting this.

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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 11:25pm

Well the precise total quote is

"Excellent vocabulary work. Respond to questions using complete sentences. Include the question in your response. Please try to keep up with the group. (smilie face)"

I understand it was meant as constructive criticism but she just doesn't get that he can't. She is completely blinded by what he "can" do that she just can't see the deficits.

I do like this lady. She has a good heart and always has the kids best interest first, is the teacher that goes to PTA, etc. but she can drive me a bit buggy. She was Cait's teacher too and she just could NOT understand why cait would lose and constantly forget things. She has got a permanent "Can Do" attitude which I do think is good in a general ed teacher. She just doesn't accept "can't" but there has to be some understanding of modifications and needs.

Fortunately Mike never saw the note. He doesn't care, lol. I did ask him if he was behind in his reading and he said "No mom, actually I am ahead now!". He has been doing the reading for that reading group as his fun bedtime reading to catch up. God I love that kid. He is such a flippin trooper!

I have calmed down. I would go and talk to the SDC teacher about it if I didn't try with the homework fiasco yesterday and got no where. I was ready to go in and fight for no homework when I hear he finished it in study hall in 5 minutes and really with Mike right there and that news it took the wind out of my sails. Now I am sounding like the whining, overprotective mother who is coddling her kids.

Tomorrow is another day.

Renee

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Thu, 01-25-2007 - 4:43am
I know how you feel! I got one last week that said "STUDY HARDER!". It was a one minute timed multiplication test. My son knows his times tables, his fine motor difficulties make writing quickly really hard. We get these stupid comments all the time. At a meeting with the team last month I stressed to her the need to be very positive with her comments and she insisted she was. Yeah, right.
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Thu, 01-25-2007 - 1:26pm

I was just looking at some work David brought home.

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Thu, 01-25-2007 - 1:37pm

((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

I feel your aggrivation. I don't know what else to say be there for Mike.

nora