Poor NT ds-neglected and forgotten

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Poor NT ds-neglected and forgotten
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Thu, 08-10-2006 - 12:45pm

Oooooohhhh, the guilt, (and as an Irish Mammy, that is a considerable amount;)


Took ds#2 to his 3 year old check up, granted 2 months after his birthday.

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Thu, 08-10-2006 - 5:07pm

Good luck fattening up ds #2, lol. We've never had that problem around here. Always seems to be the opposite. Seriously though I hope it all goes well.

Sorry to hear the tantrums aren't improving.

I totally relate about the school lunch deal. That has happened many times with ds. He's also nortorious for leaving lunch boxes in the classroom untill the whole room stinks and the lunch box needs to go straight into the wastebasket.

Samantha

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Thu, 08-10-2006 - 10:16pm

Good luck on fattening the boy, lol. We had mike on quite the diet for a while when he was on stimulants as he basically stopped eating all together. Protein shakes were the BOMB!!!!! Carnation btw has loads of junk in it. It may add weight I suppose but so will protien smoothies. I have found one recently at a health food store that tastes like icecream AND has digestive enzymes in it soooooo that is one less time I have to give those!

As for the teachers, that is par for the course in mainstream classroom. In fact she may even have been more consientious than some teachers. The teachers have one of them and many small children. Kids in 1st are expected to be very independent and one thing is getting thier lunch out of the bag with reminders from the teacher. The teacher may go the extra mile and say "Liam, do you have your lunch box?" to which my children would simply say "No" (because they don't have THIER lunch box, but they would not clarify with the teacher that they have a lunch in a different bag or they may not remember) then the teacher would assume it had gotten left at home for some strange reason and would make sure the child got a school lunch and did eat.

When Cait was in 5th grade she still needed help going through her backpack for forgotten items. Heck she still does and her SDC teacher and I contact eachother often on this very issue. Fortunately she is now good about the lunch thing but it is usually homework or some other thing she needs that will be in her back pack. She will even look for it and not find it and the teacher has to look for her.

Point is, this is one of those things where it does show when they need an aide to function in mainstream. Most of the 1st graders will either problem solve better, commmunicate better, etc.

BTW, last year I was volunteering and there was a little 2nd grade boy crying in the lunch room. So I went to help him. He forgot to get his lunch out of his backpack and had nothing to eat. So we went to class. The teacher had reminded them 3 times that morning to get it but he didn't. I know this boy. Poster child for ADHD. But if I had not seen him crying he would have gone the day without a lunch. Not that the teacher or noon duties are uncaring. There was just so many kids that unless he asked for help they likely would not have noticed.

Renee

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Thu, 08-10-2006 - 10:56pm
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Thu, 08-10-2006 - 11:12pm

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Fri, 08-11-2006 - 9:37am
I am curious, how old is your son and how much does he weigh? My son is also so small. The big joke in our family is that HRS is going to come and take him away from us because they think we are starving him. He hasn't gained weight in a long time. We give him whole milk, Ensure drinks, carnation and so forth. He is a picky eater but we will let him eat whatever he wants just to try and get him to gain weight. He still hasn't. He is 6 years old and weighs 38 pounds and wears a size 4. You can see his ribs and hip bones. He is a lot smaller than all the kids in his class.
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Fri, 08-11-2006 - 11:08am

I have peanuts for kids myself. But for what it is worth my husband and I are both short. DH is only 5'2" and I am 5'3". So our kids come by their size genetically. Both Josh(11) and Ethan(7), Jeremy(5) is more on level, are way smaller than the rest of their classmates.

Josh just broke the 60# mark, part because of genetics(DH was also small as a kid), meds and just what ever and Josh is my Aspie and he is actually not bad with his likes and dislikes. He is not a big fan of chewing meat sometimes, but if he has juice or other form of fluids to make this task easier it seems to do okay, he also won't do seconds on meat and Josh likes veggies and he will eat salad, with Ranch dressing. Our big problem with him is that he will get fixated on certain foods some times and how they should be. ex: the cheeseburger has to have a tomato on it. He also likes soda a little too much but we limit it and only if no other choices or as a treat. And when Josh wants to eat the whole world has to stop, fortunately Josh can make his own sandwiches and do his own snacks etc.Plus when he is on his meds I will add Boost to our world.

Ethan, my NT, is actually pickier than my other 2, will only eat chicken fingers when we are out. Will eat ton of carrots.Will not eat toast but will eat straight bread. etc No sauces, no butter etc. Cheese only on pizza

Jeremy, NT, seems to be actually my best eater. Not always fond of veggies and sometimes meat. But I think he is on a growth

slow down so appietate not that big. Also he doesn't like soda. NO biggie.

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Fri, 08-11-2006 - 12:54pm

Believe me - I understand. My NT DS who is almost 5, while he isn't underweight or anything, he did tell us last week that it makes him angry when we always have to do things Sister wants to do or things always have to go Sisters way...and he was absolutely right. He is so bright etc... that it is often easier to ask him to make accomodations for her - she is bright etc..too but combine a little PDD with age 3 isms = uber two year old so she isn't very good at sharing, likes taking his things etc...

He is understanding but I am really trying to make an effort to make sure her needs don't overshadow his.....

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Fri, 08-11-2006 - 1:03pm
My son's likes and dislikes change sometimes. Like he used to love rice and now he wont touch it as he says it hurts his back???? He is very specific in the way food is prepared or presented to him. Things can't be different. Like a waffle can't be put in the toaster oven- only the toaster. This will cause a meltdown if done incorrectly. You always have to check with him on everything, even down to which bowl or glass he wants. If anything is done wrong, the whole meal is ruined.
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Fri, 08-11-2006 - 2:24pm

I gueess i am luck, because Josh will eat and he is able to make his own stuff to a certain extent. But when he decides a certain thing then it becomes a fixture for awhile depending on where we are.

Josh is able to find things he likes on most menus, fortunate mac and cheese doesn't have to always be Kraft, or he doesn't get so upset over the tomato on the hamburger. Part may be for so long i didn't know he was Asperger's so i never treated him as such. I tell him straight out if a resturant can accomadte or not. He likes to eat out more than eatting at home.So it helps. I also know Burger King and Wendy's are easier at accomdating special requests compared to McDonald's. Or going to Boston Market and Friendly's. But I guess because I never put up with much before I don't know if that helped or not.

We will see where life goes.
Rina