Potty talk

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Registered: 03-21-2007
Potty talk
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Wed, 05-23-2007 - 11:59am
Hi,i've just picked my son up from school,where his teacher wanted a word.his teacher explained for the last few weeks he has been very rude to staff,eg,shut up you stupid idiot,no swearing,just rude.seems like another herdle to get over but i haven't got a clue where to start.His manners and the way he talks to people outside of school are great.Any ideas would be greatful,thanks.Yvonnexxx.
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Registered: 08-10-2006
In reply to: yvonneparkes
Wed, 05-23-2007 - 12:27pm
Hi Yvonne,
We are going through this with Nick too, he is 5. Seems the boys at school are relishing in this too. If it isnt the potty humor, the latest word in Nick's vocabulary is stupid. Stupid Mommy, stupid head, etc. Mostly when he is mad at me, I just ignore him and that really aggravates him. When he is being silly and starts the potty talk, I ignore him as well, if he continues, I take away a priviledge, although me ignoring him really seems to bother him quite a bit. I tell him I dont respond to boys that talk like that. And he wonders why the other kids think he is such a spaz sometimes? The garbage that can fly out of his mouth?? Ah well, I wish I had some advice for when your son was at school, maybe the teacher can set up a little reward system, something immediate for having a good mannered morning/afternoon?
Christine

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Christine

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Registered: 03-21-2007
In reply to: yvonneparkes
Wed, 05-23-2007 - 12:36pm
he has a smily face chart for when he's not rude,but it doesn't seem to be working.he did do it at home for a couple of days but we ignored it and it worked pretty much straight away.his teacher says she can't ignore it because she can't have the other children thinking it's acceptable,think she's trying to make an example of him.sort of stuck at what to do next.thanks for your reply,yvonnexxx.
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Registered: 11-28-2006
In reply to: yvonneparkes
Wed, 05-23-2007 - 2:24pm

Does she remind him that he needs to pick other words to tell her he's mad? I have no clue on what else can be done, I hope others can chime in with there experience on this one.

I tell ya, one thing I hate that they do in school, is always make them pull a card for bad behavior. Why can't they pick a positive (Good card) when their doing well with their behavior? You know, positive reinforcement. Why does it all have to be so negative?