Primal Scream - AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH
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| Wed, 10-19-2005 - 8:40pm |
Thanks for that. Phew.
Nasty school stuff with Cait's school and I have to put on my happy face and go play bunco.
The short of it is that I was supposed to have an IEP meeting tomorrow. Suddenly today the teachers want to bring Cait into the IEP, part of it to make her more accountable. I have been talking to them about this. In this situation Cait would just feel ganged up on. Not good at all.
I discussed it with her therapist and she feels the same. We are postponing meeting until therapist can be at meeting with us as well as district rep.
Her grades are going into the dumper (and naturally it is her fault and my fault). She is refusing to get on the bus. This morning I had to go out and get her off the bus because she refused to put her seatbelt on and was just stuck there. She has 2 strikes and will likely have detention on Friday becuase she didn't turn in homework that was done and in her back pack.
The list of complaints goes on and on and on.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH
I am going to have sooooo much wine at bunco tonight.
Renee


Dear Renee,
Aw, honey, that sucks. Is this a new program, this Asperger's middle school program? Obviously, lots of accomodations need to be worked on. Cait is not a slacker, just under too much stress and with too many expectations outside what she is currently capable of without assistance. Back into the trenches, eh?
Personally, I think I would just not bother bringing the happy face while playing bunco, what's the point, really. Firm and polite and helpful, yes, but happy?
Enjoy that wine, and good good luck in the upcoming skirmishes. Gets tiring, doesn't it, having to constantly re-educate exactly what this silent disability really means! Because Malcolm is so bloomin' high-functioning, I actually now every year have to re-educate the new classroom special needs teachers at his school who don't see his disabilities compared to the many children they work with who are more obvious!!! Makes my head spin every year, too, don't know why it surprises me anymore...
yours,
Sara
ilovemalcolm
So Sorry Renee. I was just going to come on here and ask you your opinion of having the child attend the IEP. I must have been sensing your vibe. If its any comfort we are having the same difficulty with Kyle's school. Kyle's sped teacher sent me a email explaining how homework and Kyle's agenda works with language like I was a kindergardner. She asked if My dh and I check to make sure Kyle puts his homework in his folder. He's never left homework at home because most of the time he never brings it home in the first place. So now I write her a note every day either stating Kyle didn't bring the work home, he finished the work and put it in the left side of the blue folder marked complete and return in his homework binder, or he put the work in the homework folder yesterday and I won't have him repeat the same homework again tonight. Its maddening.
I hope you can work things out with them quickly and smoothly+++++++++
Samantha
Renee,
They cannot bring Cait into the meeting without your permission. Flat-out resfuse on that one. It is my understanding (here anyway) that a child over 15 can be invited to attend his/her own IEP meeting, but attendance is totally optional.
Grrr. Am mad on your bahalf.
-Paula
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Oh Renee...I have a word for days like that. YUK! (Okay, so it doesn't exactly showcase my language skills, but it works.)
Here's hoping Bunco allowed you a few moments of piece, and several sips of relaxation. ;-)
Amy W.
OK Sorry. bewildered Irish person at large:
What is Bunco?
-Paula
visit my blog at www.onesickmother.com
Bunco -
Incredibly easy, silly game involving dice, 12 women and wine and money. I play with all my catholic friends (we know how to party, we have wine at every service!) and it is my monthly dose of sanity.
Hey I won the booby prize last night. $3. Of course it is $5 to play but I usually don't win so a good night.
Renee
Yep, that sounds familiar. Talked to the therapist about it and she was telling me it sounds like they are doing the blame the mom thing. It does happen, alot. Suddenly it is our fault.
At the beginning of the year the school never set up Cait's binder. I set it up, made sure everything went in it daily where it belonged, sat and did her whole homework with her, filled her pencil case everynight and made sure everything was ready. It was really overboard. I was just enabling the school because they felt like everything was just fine and dandy. She was also melting down nightly at home over the stress but that really didn't matter to the school. It must have been my fault. I was pushing her to hard, lol.
So I was told to let Cait fail. Just do the normal parent thing with some autism modifications but stop going over board. It isn't helping Cait or the teachers. They needed to see where she was actually at functioning wise and she wasn't going to get anyhelp unless she failed.
So now I have homework time set up, I remind her to put her things where they belong. There is no electronics until homework time is finished. If she has questions, I try to help. But I don't sit with her, do it with her (as much, I still sometimes help if she is really stressing) I don't put things in her binder for her. No homework is getting turned in. It is done and in her backpack but not in the right place in her binder and she doesn't think to look and the aide doesn't help. She is failing tests. She is failing big projects.
And now it is my fault for not being supportive. Before I was stressing her out by pushing to hard and now I am not being supportive.
Can't win for trying.
Renee
((((HUGS))))
six grade is tough and new and everything that Aspies have difficulties with. glad you stuck up for her about the IEP. Warren (add-nos) had to sit in on his last time-- he was like a deer in the headlights. confused and bewildered and upset when it was all over -- and his was a good meeting!
Betsy