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|Fri, 09-24-2010 - 2:33am|
I am new to this, but my DS recently started kindergarten this year and we are having some problems.
DS was in 4-K last year and at the tale end of the year his teacher gave me some information on tactile dysfunction and said that the school psychologist had been in the room observing another child and noticed DS exhibiting some of the signs. I read the info and did some extra research and I can definitely see some of this in my DS. I've always suspected there was more going on with him but when brought up at his yearly check up I was always told he is a perfectly normal little boy. I should have listened to my gut.
On to summer school, I really wanted him to have the social interaction because he struggles so much in this area. He is extremely bright, but he just doesn't understand how to function in a group. The teach complained about him to me everyday. I just didn't know what to do. He doesn't hold his pencil properly, he won't stop pretending he is an animal (he will actually growl at the other kids when he is upset), I didn't know what to do. He would receive consequences in school and the teacher would tell us we needed to talk to him and give him additional consequences at home. How will consequences at home make him raise his hand in class? How will consequences at home make him use words at school instead of growling when he gets upset?? Needless to say DS didn't finish the summer school program. It was not to his benefit, this teacher did not want to try to understand my son and she did not want to talk to me about what was going on in the class other than to tell me all the things he was doing wrong.
I was dreading the beginning of the school year. All I could think about was how he was going to hate it, how I was going to receive phone calls telling me how difficult he was. But, his teacher has been a breathe of fresh air. I actually talked to her about the issues we have had in the past with DS, what happened with 4-K and summer school and I told her what to expect. The second week of school DS started to show more predominant signs of the things I had read about and would become agitated much more quickly than normal and the day I had decided to talk to his teacher about it she actually beat me to the punch. DS's teacher actually has a background working with special needs and autistic children. She put the school psychologist in contact with me and I am currently waiting on the paperwork for me to sign (there was some miscommunication) so they can start testing my DS to find out exactly what is going on with him. Some of the things they are thinking are possibly Educational Autism, tactile dysfunction or Asperger's Syndrome.
On one hand I am so relieved that someone finally saw what I was seeing. A beautiful, loving, incredibly smart little boy who was struggling to function in everyday life. But on the other hand I am scared of what the psychologist and therapists will find.
So far his teacher has been amazing, she has already made some changes in her classroom for him, she is trying to meet his educational needs as well as help him function in the room with all the other children. He started kindergarten already reading, writing and doing basic math.
Anyway, if you got this far, thank you for reading all that. :)
I guess I am here because I am just wondering what the testing process was like for your children as well as for you as parents. I've read the info and understand what I am reading, but each person has a different experience and the information I've read cannot give me the individual's perspective. KWIM?
So, anything you can share with me that you think may be helpful is greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much!