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| Wed, 05-09-2007 - 11:50am |
Hello,
I normally lurk at the ADHD boards, because that is what my kids have. My question is about my nephew. He is my husband's, sister's son. He is eight years old, and seems very immature. He has always fought with his brother, but brothers fight so no big deal. Well, the other day we went to my sister-in-laws house for his first communion dinner. I couldn't believe what temper tantrums this kid was having. He was fighting with his cousins (other side of family) that came a long distance to see him. He came up from playing in the basement 3 or 4 times, screaming and crying and went into his bedroom and slammed his door. Now, I have three boys and NEVER have they behaved that way when we've had company, and they have ADHD! I am wondering if this is just lack of discipline or could these meltdowns be Asperger's or something of that sort. Also, speaking of sorting, he had a plate of M & M 's and was sorting them all by color. I asked him why he was doing that, he just said he didn't know. The reason this concerns me is because I have a cousin with a son with Asperger's. He has these kinds of meltdowns in social situations, and the sorting thing seemed typical also. I am not sure I would say anything to her even if I thought he had this. She gets very defensive if anyone even hints that her kids are less than perfect. My sons are now 20, 17 and 15 and this just does not seem like normal boy behavior, but is he just spoiled? Thanks for your input, in advance.
Julie

Julie,
Normally I would not even attempt to answer the "nature vs nurture" queation over the Internet.
However, you did place one important clue in your post. The boy in question has a brother. From your post, I am guessing that the brother does not have these behaviours. Therefore it is unlikely that 'nurture' is the issue, as both
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