R we crazy to buy drums???

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R we crazy to buy drums???
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Mon, 12-31-2007 - 3:15am

We have been toying around with the idea of buying our 8.5 y.o. ds a set of drums.

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Mon, 12-31-2007 - 9:03am

What a great & couragous Mommy you are!


Do you have anyone who could teach him something to play on them... that way when he is playing, it at least will sound good, as opposed to just banging? My nephew had a neighborhood highschooler teach him some stuff that was simple yet sounded awesome and it gave him SO much confidence!


However, when my sister asked if we wanted his old set of drums, I quickly declined (in my defence DS is only 4 and sensitive to loud sounds).


Sounds like for you and your DS it could be a great idea.


Good Luck!


Jennifer

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Mon, 12-31-2007 - 12:42pm

Thanks Jennifer for your compliments!

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Mon, 12-31-2007 - 12:54pm

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Edited 2/19/2008 11:56 am ET by littleroses
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Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:11pm
I, personally think it is a great idea!!!

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Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:31pm

Thanks for sharing that article LR.

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Mon, 12-31-2007 - 7:11pm
We had been seriously contemplating what instrument, if any our 9yo aspie could manage. His 17 yo NT sister has been involved in school band since the 4th grade. Music is such a huge part of our lives and my daughter took part in the high school's inaugural season of marching band this fall. She plays trumpet and piano, I play saxophone, and my husband plays the electric guitar. All of these involve fine motor skills my son simply doesn't have. To make matters worse, the music teacher at his school is an absolute "my way or the highway diva" who often tells the class their performance is "pathetic" and he has had behavior problems in music since kindie. I finally decided to start him in private drum lessons over this past summer. I figured this would help me answer a lot of questions. Number 1 was whether or not he could successfully play and enjoy an instrument. I did not want to force him to do something just because the rest of us like it. Number 2 was if his difficulties in music class had to do with him and his sensory issues or the teacher. Well he loved it. He had difficulty in the beginning with his motor planning but he steadily improved as the summer moved on. The private drum teacher was quite pleased with his knowledge of music notation so despite what his regular music teacher said, he WAS paying attention in class. His self esteem also increased and I really think he is proud to be a drummer. School band starts in January and I am cautiously optimistic that he can maintain his success even with a difficult teacher. We did not start him with a drum set though. We got him an inexpensive practice pad and the teacher showed him how to simulate a whole drum set during practice. Once we know if school band turns out o.k. we will buy him a full drum set. Good luck. We are always looking for ways to expand our aspie's interests beyond video games:)
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Tue, 01-01-2008 - 2:06am

Does he want drums? What was missing in your post is if he has an interest in them.

One thing I have noticed with my aspies is NO MATTER how much of a good idea I think it is, if they aren't interested it is a waste of time and money.

Music is a FABULOUS way to go for kids but let him choose which instrument if he has an instrument. If not perhaps you can try music therapy or something similar to give him some exposure to see what he may like. Awe heck, before you invest in drums he may not use, go for guitar hero. lol. That rates on the cool factor for sure!

Mike is definitely into music. It took a while and some coaxing but he has now taught himself guitar. It comes and goes as an obsession but he likes it and isn't bad for an 11 yo self taught autie. But Music has always been something he was attracted too and he wanted to learn guitar. Cait took up clarinet last year in school and it has been great for her. We also have a keyboard for her, etc. Music is very big to DH and I and it is very theraputic but make sure that you are choosing what will work for your son and what he wants. Otherwise it is a loud, expensive investment with no return.

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Tue, 01-01-2008 - 3:23am

Hi Renee,


That's a great question.

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Wed, 01-02-2008 - 5:24pm

Oh have a I got a good one about drums..


Before the holidays, I had taken my 6 year old,Jeremy,NT, to the store to get ideas for Hannukkah presents for him. Jeremy managed to zoom in the only kid sized drum set in a box at Target. He looked at the box knew what they were and said straight out"I

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