Random thoughts and vent

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Random thoughts and vent
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Mon, 12-11-2006 - 8:36am

Sometimes I feel I am the only "normal" person in my house. I have a son with Asperger's and ADD, a daughter with ADHD who is gifted and a husband who is undiagnosed but postively is ADD and 98% sure Asperger's. I am the only one in the house capable of organizing anything. I am the only one in the house who can multi task. I am the only one in the house that keeps it all together. Sometimes I feel like I am going to have a nervous breakdown! I have often thought about how enjoyable it would be to have one and be able to be in a hospital with someone waiting on me for about a week. Pretty sick, huh?

Sometimes my dh just drives me nuts. We went to Beef O Bradys for dinner wth a large group of people the other night. My dh looses his cool because our son was rowdy and generally just being a little out of control. So, ds puts a lemon int he back of dh's shirt. My dd laughs (as I would have had I been there) and dh freaks out. He has no sense of humor at all (like ds) and can't take a joke. He gets mad at ds for doing it and dd for laughing and "allowing" ds to do it. I asked him how he thought dd allowed him and how he thought she had any control over him at all since we surely don't even. It was a bad night! But, what kills me is that I didn't get uptight. I knew we were putting our son in a no win situation when we went to a loud place with lots of sensory issues, kids running around, games being p0layed. I didn't have high expectations and my dh just doesn't get it sometimes.

Ok, I guess that is enough. How was everyone else's weekend?

Melissa

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-11-2006 - 10:25am

LOL, I was just coming here to vent as well. I know what you mean. THough DH insists he isn't on the spectrum and I think he is likely right, he flirts with the edges of it and struggles with depression. When he is not in a good way his AS type symptoms come out full bore. It is like living with 5 children. I have one dd who is NT and that does help some.

Today I am venting because it has become obvious once again that DH's priorities are NOT with our family and kids, it is with his job. I guess it wouldn't be quite so bad if his job wasn't as an AUTISM SPECIALIST and what I need him for is autism related. GRRRRRR

We started the process 6 flipping months ago for Mike to be evaluated by the diagnostic center. This was DH's bright idea but I have done all the work. Well the eval is tomorrow and Wednesday. I told him a MONTH ago when I got the notice. They wouldn't set down times for us other than we need to meet with them today for an interview and a meeting sometime tomorrow afternoon. They are observing, etc. Well NATURALLY DH tells me he can't open up 2 entire days so I ask if he can at least set aside time for the meeting portion tomorrow.

Today I remind him and tell him that the meeting is tomorrow afternoon and he tells me that he HAS AND IEP FOR ANOTHER STUDENT. Oh and NATURALLY he can't reschedule that one.

I am so ticked.

Renee

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Mon, 12-11-2006 - 10:35am

Melissa & Renee, Hugs for you both.

Samantha

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