Rant...so much frustration!!!

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Rant...so much frustration!!!
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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 1:25am

Pardon me for ranting, but I have just about HAD IT! This entire week has been a complete flippin nightmare! My ds is struggling with his behavior and I don't know how to handle him AT ALL!!! The things he does absolutely drives me bonkers sometimes. Example: In early August, we got a kitten (Casey) and he is now about 15 weeks old. Well Sunday around noon, dh and I notice that we haven't seen the kitten all morning. We go looking for him and guess where we found him? IN THE FRIDGE!!! IN THE MEAT DRAWER!!! He was a little nervy, but otherwise alright. But we knew that ds had put him there.(He was napping when we found the cat). When we asked him "Dakota, where did you put Casey?" he answered "In the drawer"...I said "What drawer?"...he answers "In the frigerator"...so I ask "Why did you put him in that drawer in the refridgerator?"...he replied simply "Because I wanted to hide him."

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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 7:22am

Oh I have SO been where you are. First of all, {{{HUGS}}} to you and to Casey.

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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 7:28am

I'm so sorry you are having a tough time. Although the kitten story is funny, sort of....:-)


I was just wondering, it sounds like he really needs to let off steam after school. This is fairly typical (of all kids, my NT needs a five mile field, a bit like a dog, after school!) and I was wondering if it would make life easier for you if you took him to the park or something, with a snack, instead of straight home. That way he can run around, flap his wings, punch the bushes etc, instead of you, and then you can lure him home with the promise of a quieter treat (eg some TV or computer time). It's probably worth looking at structures and rewards before going through the meds thing again.


It sounds like you might need a treat too. A decent bottle of wine, some chocolate, a hot bath, a movie?? If you run out of steam and patience it isn't going to help DS or you.


And think hard (and ask DS) about any changes that might have happened to make him more anxious recently. I know I never even register the things that make my Aspie anxious (it can be changes in temperature, light, someone hanging their coat up differently, a change in the butter at breakfast) but a change in behaviour usually means something is bothering him, and when we get to the bottom of it we can usually give him some structured explanation or social story that helps him.


and hang in there


Kirsty


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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 10:48am

Hi Jen!


Hugs to you!!

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Christine

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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 11:51am

{{{Jen}}}


Sweetie I'm so sorry it's been so stressful with Dakota.

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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 12:36pm

I agree with everything the previous posters have said.

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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 2:45pm

Thanks you guys for being so sweet! I guess he just needs some "run it off" time when he gets home from school....we are gonna work on that. I mentioned a while back that we were thinking of getting him an Autism assistance dog....at this point, I think that would be a great idea cuz he could run and play with said dog and I could actually turn my back for half a second! Plus it would

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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 3:16pm

It looks like both of you need epson salt (magnesium) bath. Give it to him right after school. 2 cups in 3/4 tub of water. Soak for 20 min. If he is still on wheels, then try adding Natural calm or magnesium citrate (200 mg). You can increase till his body tells him to stop (diareah, LOL!!!). This will definitely calm him. You can also try GABA calm (whole foods has it), but I am not sure if he is taking any SSRI. Magnesium does have a calming effect.


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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 7:54pm

Anandhir,


First of all, I don't think your advice is advisable for ANYONE, let alone a child. Second, I don't think giving my kid diarrhea is FUNNY...AT ALL. Third, yes, I DO mean to sound pi$$y about this because your post offended me greatly.