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|Thu, 07-08-2010 - 8:01pm|
I am quite worried over the future of my 15, almost 16 yr old. He gets ideas to what he will do with his future, but he has no clue as to what these things call for. He is not committed to anything. He is quite smart, but never seems to get the idea that he has to do something or work or whatever.
First he said he wanted to be an aerospace engineer. But, he was never doing his school work. I tried to encourage him to join the local CAP but he said no way. He also kept saying he wanted to go to the Airforce Academy. Finally, when we really discussed it, he said he only wanted the Airforce Academy because it is prestigious. He also said he was not that interested in airplanes but figured aerospace engineering would earn him a lot of money. He also said he thought it would be easy. Ummm....no.
SO, after discussing, he said he really wanted to do computer science. He did ask for books on computer programming and seems interested. However, he claims he does not need to know things like math. He actually has a high IQ in the math area (around 140) but our local schools did an awful job teaching math. On a regular basis, he had to do things like draw pictures, make arts and crafts (I am referring to honors level high school math, honors Algebra 1 and honors geometry) and write about feelings. One math paper, he had to write ways he could contribute to his community. (warning, this sort of lack of math in math classes has become popular across the US, just most parents do not realize it).
I decided to tutor him in math over the summer. He has algebra 2 this fall and he only earned a 77 in algebra 1 so I figure it would be best to go over algebra 1 to make sure he is good and ready for algebra 2. OK...he had a lot of answers that were not correct. When I would ask him how he got such n such answer, he would state it just felt right. I already knew that his grade in math would have been a lot higher if his poster with pretty pictures of birds on trees were better, and if he had worn the correct outfits on spirit days and such (half the points in these classes were non math related). But, I am frustrated that he was taught to look for how he felt about problems rather than for the logical systematic solving of problems.
Now he feels like he cannot do math. But with his lack of social skills, that is really something he cannot do. I would leave out any sales positions or political type positions, such as managers and such. I do not think his decision making is always the best when you consider the fact that he completely assesses social situations wrong. We go to movies on a regular basis and sometimes, he will explain to me why a particular character did something and he will be completely off.
I think maths and such would be my son's strongest points. But I am unsure what to do now. Should I start working on reteaching him high school math before he reaches graduation so he has a chance at computer science?
Does anyone have any other suggestions? My son does not work at anything. He currently needs to be handheld through everything. He makes poor decisions most of the time. He cannot stand anything with smells or biological basically so he cannot do anything in the medical field. He has very low muscle tone, so anything that would call for strength would be out. He completely reads social situations wrong so anything where he has to impress people, get people to like him, simply will not work.
He also loves to write and loves science fiction. Is there anything in that?