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|Fri, 06-06-2003 - 12:45am|
I did back search on residual as and a lot of old post came up. Now I am even more confused. The more I read, the less I think my som has AS. But (there's always a but), can a child not be on the spectrum and stem? He is very intuitive about how others feel. Almost to the point of being over sensitive. For example, the other day he asked me why I had the person I have clean my house. I explaned to him that I realy liked her a lot and she was my friend. He said he was sorry to tell me, but she wasn't a good friend, of course, I asked him why. He said it always hurt my feelings when she didn't come. Now, this is exactly true. Like dead on. My house keeper and I went to high school togeather, and although she is supposed to come once a week, she usually makes it every other week, then she does a so-so job. Of course, this is fine with my DH as it means we pay her less per month. I can give you lots of other examples. Like I asked him why he liked a girl in his class, Laura. He said Laura has a gift. She is very nice and she is nice to everybody the same, even if she doesn't really like them. Also, he wrote a book ( dictated), and he could choose any subject. He wrote a book about friendship. the main charecters were a dinosore and two cavemen. Gosh, can't remember how it goes, but the just was, to have friends, you must be a good friend, then people will like you. Of course, with all this ASD stuff going on, I really drillled the reading teacher about who set the tone, ect, but she totally was adament every word was his. SHe said it was one of the best books she'd ever done with a kid and she'd already shared it with a ton of the other teachers and kids. Today, my DH and I decided he should work on "u's" He has a book with u's he must copy and write upper case, then he must pick three words that start with U. He picked Umbrella, Up, and you. I said you was ok, but DH was trying to guide him to pick unicorn. I aquiessed ans said, your dad doesn't like you, so you'd better pick another one, because the u is at the end. He looked me dead in the eye and said "daddy doesn't like me?" I said No, not you, the word..." he said "April fooled you Mommy!" He knew what I ment, but got me with what I said. It was funny.
All this makes me feel better, but then I see him quietly sitting on the sidelines watching other kids play and wanting to play with them, but frozen. He has trouble with the eye contact, and I think when he is happy/excited he flapps his hands. Actually he flaps his whole body. (what is hand flapping)? And then, as I mentioned before, there is that thing where he focuses inward. Can a person be on the spectrum and intuitve?
Oh, by the way, we are at my in-laws so he can go to camp. This week he has had a great time. He doesn't know a sole, and it has not been a problem at all. Also, the day is from 8-4pm. He loves it. Every day they do differnt things (which has never been an issue for him. Very "go with the flow" kind of kid). For the first time in his life, he got to ride a bus! And it was a big yellow school bus!!!! They went to the beach on the bus! Not sure why as the camp is on the beach! Who cares! He loved it! Truely a cloud nine moment. Any thoughts?