Repetitive questions

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Repetitive questions
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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 1:17pm

I was just reading the discussions on the Awareness Conference. And this question was brought up. Nathan does this too. He asks questions that he already knows the answer to. Like, "Is this our house?" He wants a definite answer back, no playing around or he gets MAD! He will pick a question, and then ask it a few times that day. It's not 20 times or anything that extreme, but it does make me wonder why he asks these peculiar questions and then feels the need to continue asking me! He also does the other thing mentioned in this post....he asks permission to do things, that he doesn't need permission to do. Like GOING TO THE BATHROOM!!!

Do any of your kids do this too? And on another note, he also gets upset with me if I interact with the TV. If I repeat a line that a character on TV says, or take one of his stuffed animals and pretend that I'm talking (as the animal). He ONLY wants me talking like myself....NO PRETENDING. This really seems to bother him. And I can't sing ANYTHING!!! (no, I don't have a terrible voice! lol) He just doesn't like the singing. I have to just be mom.

He also tells me he loves me.....at least 10 times a day. And just yesterday, I found out that he's now telling HIS TEACHERS that he loves them too!!! LOL Ok, he could be repeating something worse than "I love you"....but this could be a bit awkward as he gets older!!!LOL Of course, I'm sure by then he'll have another phrase ......probably a phrase that he will learn from Tyler, no doubt!! Cant't wait for that!! LOL

Michelle

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 1:49pm

Oh, yes, yes! Sylvia does ALL of this! I think it's part of her scripted speech thing -- so, if for example we're reading a book, and the first time we read it I point to something and say, "What is that?" And she says, "A fire engine!" Then every time we read that book, I have to say, "What is that?" so she can answer the question. And it works the other way, too, like you said: she'll ask me questions she knows the answer to, because it's part of some kind of script she's worked out in her head. And if no one will answer the questions, she answers them herself, kind of murmuring the questions and answers under her breath: "What is that? Sylvia, it's called chicken soup."

It's so funny that you mentioned this, because literally 15 minutes ago I was reading her a book before her nap, a Blues Clues book, and in the book Blue and friends are playing dress-up. Every single time we read the book, Sylvia points to one of the characters and says, "What is that?" and I say, "The dinosaur is dressed like a cook." So today, I decided to stop playing along; I started saying, "Is the dinosaur a teacher? No, silly! Is he a doctor? Noooo!" In an effort to get her to say what the dinosaur was really dressed like. She just looked at me like I was from another planet, and then burst into tears. Guess I ruined that one.

And yes, she does NOT want me interacting with the TV. It got so bad that now she kicks me out of the room when it's time to watch Blues Clues -- she's not taking any chances, lol! Sometimes I can sing to her, but sometimes that just really makes her ANGRY. And while I'm allowed (sometimes) to invent a story or a play using her stuffed animals, I'm NOT allowed to improvise and I'm NOT allowed to be involved once she takes over and starts doing the pretending herself. If she's making up a story with her two stuffed animals (which basically involves repeating a script over and over), if I take another stuffed animal and try to join in, hooo boy! Come and see the fireworks!

Jennifer :)

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 2:42pm

Jake doesn't like pretending either. Now he is 12 so you'd think by now he wold know at least that isn't real. He gets very mad with his sister, who is almost 4, she loves to pretend. Normal girl stuff like a tea party or baby dolls. Come to think of it he gets mad at me when I play pretend with her. He just doens't get it.

He also has a habit of when he says something-like what someone has done or is doing-he will say the sentence and then just out of the blue say "literaly". I try reminding him he doesn't have to say that.

Liza

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 4:28pm

That's funny, Liza!! Nathan has a new word too.....he says, "Seriously", after he makes his point!! It's sooo funny!

Michelle

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 4:33pm

Jennifer,

Nathan has never burst into tears, but he just yells at me!!! And he does this to "drown" me out!!!! LOL He doesn't want to hear anything other than what I'm SUPPOSED TO SAY!! If I say the wrong thing he screams!!!!

At least you're allowed to occasionally invent a story. I can't do that. Tyler loves it when I do this, he laughs hysterically!! I'm pretty funny at making up stories, I used to do this with my younger brother when we were kids!! So at least Tyler can appreciate my stories!!! But Nathan doesn't want ANY part of it!!!! LOL

Michelle

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 5:18pm

Raising my hand here. My daughter is always asking me questions that she knows the answer to, sometimes multiple times in a row. And she has this exaggerated way of asking questions where her voice gets really really high and sqeaky at the end, so the whole questioning thing is sometimes really amusing. Her favorite question is "What is that sound?" Sometimes its obvious what sound she's talking about, but sometimes its not. Occassionally, in a noisy environment like a grocery store I can't even guess so I answer "I don't know what sound you heard sweety" a few times in a row and then she tell me what sound she means and ask me "What is that sound?" and wait for me to repeat her answer so she can say "Yes. That's the sound."

My daughter hates for me to sing too, although I do have a terrible voice, so she might have a good reason for that. And, she doesn't like for me to pretend, unless she has assigned me the role. If she wants me to play she will tell me "You be the mommy dog and I will be the baby puppy. You sleep here and I will sleep there. Eat the popcorn like this." Then when I do something wrong she guides me back into my correct role. Otherwise, she likes me to be mommy. God help us if DH and I start joking around, using pretend voices. She will yell at us to "stop saying words like that."

Mary

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 7:15pm

Mary,

I get that all the time, from Nathan!!! He is always telling us "STOP THAT!!!"

That's so sweet that your dd assigns you an actual "role". I never get to be ANYONE!!! LOL

Michelle

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Thu, 10-20-2005 - 12:26am
Michelle,
Jake sounds exactly like your son. Oh, somedays I think I'm going to go crazy! When he first started talking, he talked non-stop about thomas the tank but now he just seems to ask the same question over and over. I usually answer twice and then I say "what did mommy tell you" or else I give him the wrong answer and he will then correct me.I have read that this can be used as a stim for them. As far as pretend play goes he's so inconsitant, somedays he'll do it but mostly if I even suggest he pretend to be a monkey and I an elephant he freaks out and says "NO,I'M JAKE".He constantly says "no singing" when I sing along to some of the shows he likes, so much so my 15 month old says "NO" if I even sing twinkle,twinkle little star(LOL).
Teresa
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Thu, 10-20-2005 - 6:47am

OK, I just had to tell you that we had to teach our daughter to say, "Stop singing, please," because otherwise whenever I try to sing something she screams, "ALL DONE!!!" LOL!!!

Jennifer

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Thu, 10-20-2005 - 10:25am

That's funny about saying "No I'm Jake". My daughter could (and has) pretend to be a puppy for days on end. However, if I call her "baby puppy" when she isn't pretending she will correct me immediately "No. I'm not baby puppy. I Kivrin."

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Thu, 10-20-2005 - 12:36pm

Love the stories! And boy oh boy can I identify!

I always felt like I had a fairly decent voice- I mean, there was a time when I sang at weddings, but GAWD forbid I sing when Claire doesn't want me to! She'll throw her hand over my mouth and yell, "STOP IT! BE NICE!" As if my singing qualifies as evil!

Noah picks up what I call "little man" words. The big one right now is "actually"-while it might be a slight exaggeration, it feels like he uses the word "actually" at least once per sentence. "Actually mom, it's supposed to be on the dresser." or "The word is mad not bad, actually."

Oh...and my NT kiddo is the one who asks the same questions over and over and over again!!!

Amy W.

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