requesting FBA?

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Registered: 02-21-2006
requesting FBA?
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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 3:06pm

Hi. I was just checking in with a thought/question.

My son has been "tanking" since January. While it is a combination of factors, partly I have been looking at his mediciation. (note, I posted about abilify, and am seriously considering it!).

Anyhow, I recently contacted the school about conducting an FBA and psych evaluation. It took approximately one month from my verbal request (to written, to surveys,) to his team meeting which we had today. While I was shocked, the entire team was in agreement that he should have FBA.

For some reason, I'm saddened by this. I'm so grateful for it, and for getting it without so much as a single raised tone in an email!

I just wanted to put that out there. Again, I'm thankful I'm not fighting for it, and haven't had to, I'm thankful that everyone (with the exception of the nincompoop that is the principal) is working so hard, and I'm thankful that my ex-husband finally sees (after 8 years) that our son is indeed autistic. yes, I said it, 8 years.

HOwever, I'm mourning the loss of all the gains I thought we had accomplished. I feel so stupid even saying that, but I do... I know that some of you out there have probably felt exactly as I do, and that's why I'm saying it here, cuz you understand.

Oddly enough, I'm also relieved, that REAL people with diagnose REAL autism are confirming that he is indeed autistic. You know the family and friends that look at you like you're always doing the wrong thing, etc. judgmental and all. This is a nice big F... U... I've earned it and so has Dominic! lol... thanks for listening I really needed to get that out. It was so hard to get through that meeting without crying, I can't even explain it.

Thanks~

Nicole

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Registered: 12-22-2003
Wed, 04-11-2007 - 7:06pm

Nicole, you wrote:
"It was so hard to get through that meeting without crying, I can't even explain it."

No need to explain. We've all been there, done that...and yeah, even after several years of "experience", I have a hard time getting through a team meeting without a tear.

(((((Nicole)))))

Amy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-11-2007 - 11:58pm

(((HUGS))))

I know exactly what you mean. I remember so many times where I was glad to get the needed support from either the team, docs or what ever, but a little part of me inside wanted them to say I was nuts, s/he wasn't autistic, they had made enough gains not to need...., ya know.

For us this came a few weeks ago with accepting a more restrictive placement for ds for next year. I knew it was the right decision but it was still hard.

Hope you are feeling better about this soon. It was a good meeting but it is never easy to hear your child needs the next step.

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 12:38pm

Nicole,


You know, reading your mail just brought through how much os a roller-coaster-ride this journey is.

-Paula

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