Responsibilities for 4th grade aspie
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| Thu, 03-06-2008 - 7:10pm |
I went to pick the boys up from school and David started getting all irate with me. He yelled, "Why the heck haven't you returned my progress report?!" I thought back to the 653 items that have come home from school with different variations of "acknowedge this" on them, and I was pretty sure that done whatever I was supposed to do, but really, I have my own organization challenges, so I could have missed something. I asked why he was making a big deal about it and he told me that for the past two days, he's been kept in at recess, writing, "I will bring in my progress report." So, I guess, all of a sudden the kids are adults now. I hadn't realized. I thought it was MY responsibility to sign and return the progress report. It hadn't even occurred to me that David even knew it existed.
I found it in one of our piles of paperwork that gets shuffled around periodically so it won't fall into the toaster. Hey, that's how it is. It's a small house full of people who LIVE in it. If the school actually cared about things being returned, then they wouldn't send home so much superfluous garbage. ;)
Basically, I really like David's teacher. He's charming and friendly, and for the most part I think he's on the ball. But when I signed the progress report, I wrote: "Now that I know that my kid gets punished for my mistakes, I'll try to be more careful in the future." He can take that however he wants.
And who knows. Maybe this will prompt David to remember things that are his responsibility, which I don't hear about. I. Seriously. Doubt. It. We had a similar situation a few weeks ago with his music teacher and David forgetting to bring his recorder. There was a big to-do about that, but he's still never shown any interest in keeping track of that. This is a kid who will stand in the shower, soaking wet and freezing, waiting for someone to come and wrap a towel around him instead of doing it
himself.
Next week is our annual IEP meeting. I'm sure this "responsibilities" thing will be brought up. What I want to know is, am I allowed to roll my eyes and sigh loudly at people's suggestions in an IEP meeting? I have a feeling I might want to.

I'm sorry your guy lost his recess.
This teacher is way out of line. I teach 6th grade and would never give a student detention(loss of recess) for not bringing in a parent paper.
I so hear you !!!
Roll your eyes and then have it put IN WRITING that nobody is ever allowed to punish your son for "your" mistake.