The school bus

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The school bus
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Wed, 01-12-2011 - 9:41pm

So we haven't gotten DS tested yet. He is starting a social skills play group at the local university. Both he and my youngest will be in it. It is a 10 week class run by my oldest's OT and OT students. The OT knows about our concerns and is going to watch him and let me know what she thinks. My oldest (who does not have PDD but has an anxiety disorder) sees a regular therapist who works with many autistic children and thinks middle DS has Aspergers. I do as well.

So here's the issue: DS came home today and said the boy he shares a seat with was hitting his lunch bag because it was cold. He said he does that a lot. Since Owen seems rather naive I pried a bit and learned that the hititng happens often, and sometimes it is in a fun way and other times it is in a mean way. I'm mad that it's happening at all, and really mad because this child is in the grade above my child, along with the other child they share a seat with. IMO children should not be placed on seats with older children. Anyway I sent an e mail to the principal and will also speak with the bus driver and request that my 2 boys be placed together.

Do any of your children ride the bus and have things like this happen? It is particularly bothersome because DS is such a sweet child and I Don't think he even realizes that people do things to be mean. If it doesn't change I will drive the boys to and from school, but I Don't feel like I should have to when the issue is bad behavior on the part of another child. So this is more a vent than anything else. Thanks for listening!

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Thu, 01-13-2011 - 4:00am

We have had lots of bus issues over the years. When you really think about it, bus rides can be a sensory nightmare and drivers can't keep their eyes on the road and watch everything the kids are doing too. Do you have any monitors on the bus? I think you did the right thing in alerting the principal. I used to put things into our IEP about the bus rides like allowing ds to sit only two to a seat (they frequently sat 3 to a seat on this route because it was so big). Being squished and jostled was a sensory issue for my ds. Also giving his an assigned seat near the front helped. Pairing your son with his sibling is a good idea, and I would drive them too if things don't improve. We are in a magnet school now and his current bus is almost empty so we no longer have any bus issues except for him complaining about the rap music the driver listened to last year

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Thu, 01-13-2011 - 7:45am

sensory nightmare definitely sums it up well :) I know I can't stand the bus when I tag along on field trips. I spoke with the bus driver this morning and she's going to move his seat, but I still think the other child needs to be dealt with and I know the principal will try to get to the bottom of it. I am concerned that Owen's reactions will make them doubt that he's telling the truth. He tends to smile and look away when he's confronted on things. We'll see what happens.

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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 3:35pm

We have alot of school bus issues with Skye .. We actually are going to request a meeting with the principle asap. almost all the kids at nite are older kids on her bus and the bus driver is not a very pleasant person.. Skye is very unorganized and kinda out of it by the time she gets on the bus and the ride home makes her issues worse shes gets frazzled and paniced and loses things and sometimes theres boys that pick on her and hit her and she doesnt quite get it and i think they are being mean but she says no but when a boy is hitting u in the head , sorry mean or not, unacceptable ..

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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 7:59pm

Aw, I hope you can get her bus situation figured out in the best way for her. I am thankful we have a nice bus driver. She moved DS the following day so he is now closer to the front. The other child was also told that if it continues he will no longer ride the bus. Hopefully it will stop.

The day after all of this came to light when my boys were getting on the bus my oldest one apparently (as told by my DS who was getting picked on) went up to the other boy and told him to "stop hitting my brother!" I can picture it and am very proud of DS1 for sticking up for his brother. Especially since DS1 is tiny and likely physically smaller thant he other child. It's very unlike him to do something like that and I'm happy he did it!