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In school suspension
| Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:36am |
And so it begins...Nathan, who is in the 7th grade got an in school suspension for today for sticking his middle finger up at a few students in his class. I got a call yesterday from his Life Skills teacher letting me know that on Friday he had gotten upset with a couple of kids who were picking on him so he stuck up his middle finger at them. I know this is wrong and inappropriate but she told me the principal was going to give him 3 days of in school suspension for this. So when Nathan got home I asked him what happened, (he is always honest with me) he told me that they were watching a movie in class about fruits and vegetables and he thought it was stupid, so he admits he was talking and being disruptive. So the teacher then proceeded to say "well class, since Nathan has decided to talk we're going to have to rewind the movie and watch it again" so she had Nathan rewind the movie and they had to re-watch it. well the whole class was upset with Nathan and a few of the boys made some rude comments to him so that is when he flipped them off. Now, the reason I am upset is because this teacher singled him out and embarrassed him in front of the class and his main issue is he does not want to be singled out or embarrassed because he has a hard enough time making friends as it is so he's always trying to be the funny guy or whatever but in the long run he ended up making everyone mad because of his behavior. Does this make sense? I guess I am upset that she had to bring the whole class into it and make an example out of nathan. She also made comments to me on the phone that she knows he has a disability but she just doesn't know what to do with him. So needless to say I went to the school and talked to the principal and told him 3 days of in school suspension was too much for him and they decided that since he has autism they will make it just 1 day! well thank you for that! So I have called a meeting with his group of teachers and we'll see how that goes. It was a quiet first 2 months of school and I really thought things were going to be okay but now it's starting and I feel like this is never going to end...thanks for listening. I think I just need to vent a little and your a great group and always so supportive of one another. MY DH has no clue, he knows a little about aspergers but Nathan is so high functioning that he just thinks he's being a trouble maker. ugh!

In school suspension sounds very OTT for a finger gesture, or maybe I'm just more laid back about that sort of thing.
For what it is worth. You could tell your son for what it is worth. Flipping thebird was not the best response. But at least it was within good contax for the situation. You can't tell me that none of those other kids never flipped the bird?
The teacher was defintely wrong and Nathan responed in the only way he could. At least he didn't punch nobody or throw anything. IEP hopfully help. but sometimes these Zero tolerance policies many schools are adapting hurt all of the students. Sad to say maybe there were other ways to handle things,but if the worst he came up with was fipping the bird rather than saying it. Maybe the teacher should of said quietly, sorry you are not happy, but here is the chose watch the show or leave the room. Better yet teacher should not have pushed, when Nathan first started to act up he should have had 3 warnings then leave the room.
Singling him out like that was just opening herself up to the trouble.
Sometimes I have found in my world that some teachers truly don't have a clue on how to act with kids.
I think for those people teaching may have been a last resort. Because they surely didn't pick this career for the fun of it. Either that or they themselves had unresolved issues and now teaching is the best revenge of them all.
'Rina
Of course Nathan knows what he needs.
I would be so upset with that teacher. Yeah, our kids will say inappropriate things...but, to single him out like that is the worst thing she could have done.
I'm not looking forward to middle school, if that's how it's going to be.
Dee,
All fabulous ideas and ones I love when I see a teacher using them.
You wanna go around the country and do teacher training on how to be a decent teacher for AS middleschoolers?
Renee
Do I get mileage;)
It just gets me steamed when I see an educator go the easy, pick on the kid route; it's the sign of a burned out or a incredibly useless teacher.