Secret evaluation at school

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Secret evaluation at school
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Thu, 09-16-2010 - 6:22am

Why oh why does the school not listen to me?? We have spent the last YEAR in transition meetings discussing Euan's needs, he's had tremendous support from his primary school and from the transition team. Then, when he actually started high school, nothing. No supports in place other than an early lunch pass. We phoned, left messages, asked for a meeting with his support co-ordinator to discuss various things that were concerning us, wrote a letter....nothing.



THEN there's a fire alarm (scheduled, but the kids didn't know). Euan freaks out, huge meltdown. *Suddenly* all of our messages are 'noticed' and the principal is falling over herself to get back to us. They magically 'find' a senior pupil to accompany him to afterschool activities and extra aide time to help him write down his homework tasks and check his bag. (All of which should have been in his IEP anyway). They are now going to do a 'secret' (ie secret to Euan and his classmates) observation of him at several points in the day (I am not sure how 'secret' this going to be because apparently it will involve the support co-ordinator, a trainee, and the ASD outreach worker, and even a kid who doesn't normally notice stuff is going to notice there are three extra adults in the classroom taking notes! :-)



I'm just so *mad* that the poor kid had to have a freak-out session before anything we said got taken seriously. HEY GUYS!!! Me, and his primary teacher, and his therapist, and the ASD worker who have been working with him for years ARE NOT MAKING THIS STUFF UP you know!!!



grrrr. Boy am I going to be the pushy, difficult parent at this school!!!



But, the upside, Euan is actually genuinely happy and relatively unstressed, is getting most of his assignments done AND has managed to join two afterschool social activities (both drama related) that he is enjoying, and has also managed to find 8 friends who are coming to his birthday party. All of these are quite big achievements for him. We've had about one or two meltdowns per week at home (usually about homework) which is less than I was expecting. So fingers crossed it will carry on being mostly good.



But, sheesh, why can't they just LISTEN and ACT on the stuff we tell them and it would really save us all a lot of time, hassle and heartache!!



Kirsty, mum to Euan (11, Aspergers Syndrome) Rohan (7, NT) and Maeve (4, NT)

"My definition of housework is to sweep the room with a glance"



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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 8:50am

Sometimes I think they do believe we make it up.

                                

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-03-2010
Sun, 09-19-2010 - 4:19am

This sort of thing drives me crazy and its not your school alone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2008
Sat, 09-18-2010 - 7:42pm
Sometimes I wonder if they think we are making it all up. It's just ridiculous. I'm really glad Euan is doing so well in HS! I hope he has a great birthday party with his new friends. :)
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