Selective Mutism and Aspergers?! (m)

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Selective Mutism and Aspergers?! (m)
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Wed, 07-30-2003 - 11:26am
...my DD, 6 on Aug 4, is diagnosed with SM but with the help and change for a second opinion with a Psych (PhD, to be exact), we are wandering if it is related to Aspergers. Especially because of her high tolerance to Yeast and Carbos and the Diet Connection, hence, her behavior! We see this Psych again Aug 11th and I am so excited because she is adored and my DD loves her a lot too. Anyone have further insight or info on SM Behavior or personally relate to Aspergers?.....

TIA Jeanne

 


 


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Registered: 07-11-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 4:38pm
Hi Jeanne,

My DH was dx'd with SM about two years ago, but it turned out he had AS. While, yes, SM is seen in rather high levels in people on the Spectrum, sometimes it turns out that the behavior is more ASD caused and is not actually SM.

For my DH he knows he should talk at certain points or that people expect it of him, but he has no idea what to say (even if it's a simple yes or no) and he has no idea how to relate to the other person that he doesn't know what to say. At times like these he simply doesn't respond.

Also, with his AS he is one of the 'lack of expression' people (he actually has to put conscious thought into generating facial expressions and body language). Because of THAT he very often appears to have understood what was said and acts like he may have actually responded when he didn't. This was reinforced by his lack of Theory of Mind because he wasn't aware that the person attempting a dialogue with him did not naturally reach the same exact conclusions he did. Sometimes, in his mind, there is no reason to respond because he feels the other person will come to the same conclusion at the same speed as he did. He is only now (at 39yo) learning that this doesn't happen very often.

My 12yo dd (PDD-NOS) also has SM type behavior, but it's not as sever as her step-dad's. Just last night, when i went to put all the kids to bed, she failed to respond to a 'good night' from me. At first I thought she was asleep until I saw her eyes were open. I made eye contact with her and said it again. Again she said nothing. At that point I said "When someone says good night to you it is considered curtious to say it back." She got a very surprised look then blushed and said good night. For her the behavior usually comes down to her lack of social skills. I've gotten used to it though and have simply taken to pointing out what should be done in certain instances. I don't make it sound like a chastisement, just a gentle BTW type correction.

My other Aspies are no where near close to SM. Infact with Jade and Eva I can't get them to STOP talking. LOL. They have 12 things to say on every single point of every single conversation, whether they were a part of it or not. There again, it's social skills (and a little ADHD), but we're working on it.

I'm glad you found someone you and your dd really like. It's sooooo hard to find the right match with psychs. Hang onto this one for dear life.

Peace,

Candes