Social Story help needed...

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Social Story help needed...
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Wed, 06-04-2003 - 12:25pm
Renee's post made me realize that I need to do more with my son in the socializing department. We do role playing and talk about social situations but I'm not always on top of things (okay, I know no one is but I want to be more diligent about teaching proper social behavior). A not so great example would have been Monday. I had invited a friend of my son's over along with his mother and siblings. I failed to mention the siblings and the morning turned into a nightmare (well, I did say they would be coming over but I didn't mention the "take over" - who knew? okay, I'm sure this is making no sense). We opened the front door and said friend and siblings (there were only two but it seemed like a whole lot more) went everywhere. My son, who is an only, freaked. Usually play time around here is a fairly quiet affair, even with a friend over. So I think this barrage of noise, invasion of space and belongings sent him over the edge. I thought we were prepared, but obviously we were not. My son flew into a rage over everything. Fortunately, the first two times he was able to calm himself down but the third time he lunged after the little girl and was going left and right with the fists. I got to him almost immediately and the little girl was not hurt. Of course, the mother left right away and I am completely embarassed. My son was twice this girl's size and he flipped out and went right after her. My point to telling this story is that I think my son would have handled it better had I known more of what to expect and had put it into a social story. Can someone give me a short example of a social story that would involve this situation (an only has a family come over and how could he deal with it). And for those who do social stories, how often do you do them? Do you do them just before social situations and make the story fit the situation? Can someone write a short example of one for the above situation? Thanks for your help. (Just FYI, I've been "working" on this post for sometime. My son is a constant interupption. If I had a minute to myself I would have posted at least a half hour ago!!)

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Wed, 06-04-2003 - 4:23pm


Bugs,

I've been trying to write some examples for you, etc, for about half an hour now, but the kids are buggin me. Then it occurred to me.....Carol Grey has a video on how to write Social Stories. Bellow is the link to the OASIS bookstore page where all of her books and videos are listed for sale through amazon.com. Just scroll down, she has a large section at the bottom. Oh ugh! Eva is trying to fill the inflatable pool with bottled water, gotta go.


http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/books_social.html

Candes

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Thu, 06-05-2003 - 11:38am
There is also Carol grays website thegraycenter.com I beleive. It has all her products there as well as the monthly newsletter to order.

As far as the social story, I would probably try to figure out what in particular about the playdate was troublesome and write the story around that. For instance, was it too many people/overstimulation? Was it difficulty with sharing toys?

Did the other Mom know his difficulties? Perhaps some arrangement to slowly get him used to ths kind of playdate would help. Perhaps if he is having difficulty dharing certain special items then those get put away for such playdate. Perhaps he can have a safe area to be alone, like his room, that he can access for a limited time if he gets overstimulated. Perhaps keep the play dates to a set amount of time and start out short or use a neutral area to get together like a park. Then it is not in his safe place with all his special things to share. Use those in conjunction with the social story and perhaps it woudl be more successful.

Renee

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Thu, 06-05-2003 - 5:14pm
My sons bring social stories home from school every day to assist them in telling me what they did. This is what they looked like:

http://groups.msn.com/OnlineScavengerHuntClubJunebug/traceysfinds.msnw?action=ShowPhoto&PhotoID=21

(On this particular day, my son had had insomnia during the night and fell asleep at school for the entire afternoon. This had never happened before and I found the social story amusing so I kept it- LOL!)

Maybe you can do something like this on your computer? Example:

This is what we are going to do today:

After Breakfast Time: (insert photo) are coming to (insert photo of your house).

(Insert picture of friends) and (insert picture of DS) are going to play in the (picture of playroom). (Picture of all the kids) are going to play with (picture of toys) together.

If I get (insert picture of angry face) I will (show what he can do, ie watch tv, sit on bed, go in other room, tell Mommy).

I will not hit (show picture of hitting with a red "X" over it).

Not sure if this is what you were looking for. Hope it gave you an idea though.

Tracey

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Sun, 06-08-2003 - 6:58pm
Just wanted to say a thanks for the help and ideas. I really appreciate it. I have company right now, so I don't have much time to spend here. I have some good news to share and will as soon as I can.

Thanks for the help

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