something my DD has started to do
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| Mon, 09-26-2005 - 6:27pm |
I know - I ask a lot of questions - but you ladies are so helpful.
My almost 2 y/o has started to cry (loudly) when I leave the house and she is home with her dad and sister - she never used to do this. She is calmed within minutes by my Dh - and then is fine, and runs and gives me a big hug when I return - and seems totally fine. Is this the start of something abnormal?
A few brags now -
She is starting to say a lot more words - and is asking for things, she used to just try to get it herself, but now, if she can't - she will ask for help, probably not a big deal, but it makes life easier. Today - we went to the grocery store - and she wanted to get out of the cart ( because I let her sister out) - so, reluctantly, I let her and she was great - just followed us along - and asked for a cookie when we passed the bakery : ) - then, when we were leaving - she waved and said '
'goodbye store ' - - she never has said GOOD bye - usually just bye..........
Also - would some of you mind telling me what your children were like at 2?
thanks!!

She sounds very cute! And like she's doing great!
I think a bit of separation anxiety at almost two is pretty darn typical behavior. The fact that DH can calm her and she moves on is excellent. And she's happy when you come back -- more excellent.
My DS's issues were really just surfacing at age two, so it's hard to answer that question for you. He started having huge sensory dysfunction and his language plateaued.
Take care,
Cathy
Malcolm was very OK at 2 also, lots of happy smiles and cuddles, some separation anxiety when I left but calm-able, appropriate language (unless you noticed that he didn't vary the 2 and 3 word sentences he used to get things), happy parellel playing with other kids. Still nursing lots, and later an OT told us that he was probably using the breast feeding to calm, equalize and regulate his senses, so we didn't get as many symptoms as early...
Echoing and beginning temper tantrums didn't really escalate 'til closer to 3, we started to wonder if something was off with him closer to 2 and a half, but only weird feelings 'cuz pediatrician, child care center, noone else thought anything was wrong!
So far, in your posts, I haven't really seen what is worrying you? She sounds awfully normal and great.
yours,
Sara
she doesn't talk much, she cannot ( or will not)really follow directions, she eats well, but only likes a handful of things - myabe 10 thins that she really likes - about 20 that she will tollerate - lol
she only really parallel plays - but will hide and seek and initiate it with her sister, does not want her sister to kiss and hug her all day like my older DD would like to - -
those are my concerns -
Our son, Weston, was not Dx'd until this year, he's 9. He started speech therapy 1 1/2 yrs ago.
At age 2. He tantrumed every single morning when I had to take the other kids to school. He hated riding in a stroller or wagon, so he would walk the whole mile to school and home. He said only 4-5 words. He did not do any other language sounds or try to immitate our speech. He didn't really communicate his wants or needs except to grunt or head butt me. He hated being held or comforted when he got hurt. He had LOTS of sensory issues. He would hide when anyone new or different came. He would watch wheels spin for a long time. He played Thomas the Tank Engine for hours. He would watch Thomas Videos over and over. He had little eye contact.
He had all the classic red flags, but we, our friends and family and our family Dr managed to rationalize all of them.
Betsy
thanks Betsy for your response.
See, my DD doesn't really have many red flags - maybe 2 or so out of the 12 or so I've read about - I've done all the on-line diag. tests ( about 10 times) - they all come out negative. She has no sensory issues that I am aware of, is pretty go with the flow and loves people - but she has a few quirks that concern me - BUT, I think I am just really going to focus on enjoying her and stop analizing everymove she makes, I am driving both of us - as well as my family nuts.
She loves being around us, and enjoys all our outtings - so I need to stop obsessing. She is very happy and content - and thats what should be most important!
She has an eval mid Oct - she has been eval's by psy friends of the family alreaady who all say def. not to any spectrum issues - but we shall see.
you ladies are so much help - thanks again for your honest answers, I really appreciate all who took the time to respond to me numerous times : )
But she points, she likes social situations ... you sound like you are in same boat we were at that age, with some symptoms yes and some no... and I do wish we had gotten evaluations done sooner, but we weren't asking the questions you are.
Early intervention through your future school district will do an eval and is free to you, going private for an evaluation can cost a way load of money and there can be long waiting lists. Have you considered calling early intervention and asking to have her evaluated? You can start getting feedback from evaluators with experience of looking at lots and lots of kids, also if there IS a problem (even just language delay which later turns out NOT to be on autistic spectrum), you can get services for her and learn alot more about what is going on with her.
Kids can just be slower, having the older child to compare to might be doing her a disservice. But if you're asking too many questions too often, I would go get her evaluated, why not? And better to be safe than wait and be sorry later. The worst you can find out is that there ISN'T a problem and that would be great!!! But if there IS, you can get to work with her, right away.
If we had waited too much longer, our son very likely would not be doing as well as he is, and he still will have some super big mega-challenges ahead for him in his life, through no fault of his own...
yours,
Sara
she has been evaluated 4 times - by EI.( from 10 months 18 months) - I kept bugging them becasue she was not saying anything and didn't appear to be listening to us all that well) , they finally accepted her into the b to 3 program at the local kindergarden - and she gets a home visit once a week by a speech therap. As I also started - she has been seen family child psy ( my MIL and FIL) and a freind of theirs - who thinks its a receptive language delay.
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Edited 9/27/2005 12:03 pm ET ET by lovenkids
My kids were alot more like betsy's. We knew by 2 they were different, though we justified alot of it with excuses.
Cait - frequent tantrums. Never slept through the night. Difficulty with eating, sensory stuff. Language wise, I think I told you she was very much like your dd. She had definite routines, rigid, obsessions, sensory problems. etc.
Mike - severe separation anxiety, echolalia, his language had the right amount of words but it was off. He did not answer to his name at least I would say 80% of the time. Horrible meltdowns. Horrible time with new people. Horrible sensory issues. God help the stranger who touched him. He was a runner and would take off on me. We were just starting to question at 2 if there were something going on. He had started to have horrible meltdowns and weird little things.
Renee