speaking of being in their little world

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speaking of being in their little world
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Thu, 05-08-2003 - 7:50pm
I was wondering what you all know about television then? Does that encourage them to withdraw into their own little world too? Is there anything else I should know about that encourages them to stay in there, so to speak. Thanks, I'm brand new to this and I'm not sure what I need to know.
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Fri, 05-09-2003 - 12:41pm
I was wondering if you meant "encourage" or "Cause".

Is there a reason you would want to encourage them to stay in their

own world? I have a good reason, so I'm not saying to sound bad.

When Tim is in his own world, he's not hitting his syblings

or tearing things up (unless they become objects of his world like if

he's roleplaying and tries to hit one of them by copying some show or

game) It's hard to explain sometimes because it can differ on

up or down days.

I say Yes, TV (video games and books) cause them to withdraw into

their own little world, partly because they keep playing things

over and over in their minds while they are processing it.

I don't think it's limited to our type of kids, just our kids

take it to the more extreme. I used to put in barney or kid song

videos just so I could take a nap or clean house. But, I'd catch

Tim rewinding the video just to watch one part over and over and over...etc.

and when the movie was over, he'd throw a fit because the screen

blanked out. Now that he's 12, I see him playing pretend

more than he ever did as a toddler. Right before sleep he

gets some cars and pieces of track and plays. and he colors

alot and while he's coloring it sounds like he's in his

own world, I'll listen to him and it seems like he's reciting

some movie, cartoon or show, saying each part.

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Fri, 05-09-2003 - 6:26pm
Oops! Thanks, sometimes I don't realize what I'm typing. I do believe I meant "cause" not encourage. I don't want to cause my dd to withdraw, I've come across reading here and there that indicates that was not a good thing. I had not realized this does happen or could happen. (I am new to this). So, I meant, what kinds of activities cause them to stay in their world that I may not be aware of?
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Fri, 05-09-2003 - 8:46pm
I'm really not sure there is a way to avoid it.

The only thing

I try to do is monitor what they are exposed to with the tv.

Most days Tim comes home from school and plays out back where the

dogs are and he will be in his own world just by standing there

and twirling with a stick or something, I have to call his

name several times to get his attention (someone mentioned

that this could be a type of seizure disorder when they

stare blankly and take a while to get their attention)..

All kids need to have their own world In my opinion, they

need to have imagination and dreams. As parents we

have the tough job of monitoring then and listening in case they

are acting out things that are bothering them. (Tim got

in trouble at school for pretending to crash airplanes into buildings

after the 9-11 terror but it was his way of acting out

something that he was unsure about)

You can maybe pull them out of "Their own little world" by distracting them

to do activities with you. Helping with a chore, dancing or acting

silly, play games, etc to keep their focus in the real world, trying not

to totally discourage imaginative play.

I know I'm probably not a whole lot of help, just going by

our experiences. Rebecca