Spec needs sports-dh not on board
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| Mon, 03-12-2007 - 8:05pm |
Liam's teacher sent home a notice about a spec needs baseball proram last week. it's a program I've heard about before but dh just isn't enthusiastic at all. It'shas (like spec olympics ) kids with all sorts of disabilities: Cp, various levels of autism, downs etc. I've gone back and forth and the reality is Liam right now can not function in a regular organized sports setting and he wants to do these thngs. He does a special abiliies karate class and loves it. This baseball is non competive and purely for fun. Sill dh is unenthused and I know its 'cause he feels Liam isn't really disabled "like those kids in wheelchairs." Still the kid can't function with reg kids......so what do do? I would like it if dh would get on board and at least seem a little bit supportive; I guess he's grieving the son who would play little league, join the scouts, play club soccer etc. I just want Liam to have extra curricular activities in any shape or form. How do I get dh to accept that? Sigh.....
Dee


Edited 2/22/2008 12:26 pm ET by littleroses
Love that,...."bummer goggles"....so fits the spirit of the moment, lol! Honestly though I'f love to smack dh in the mouth sometimes....and he's one of the good ones...hmmmm
Dee
Hi! I know how you feel 'cause my DH is alot like yours. I get really angry when he rolls his eyes about anything "not manly" when my hope is for DS to participate in ANY thing to be a part of a team or for physical fitness.
Our town has the Challenger League made up of all type of SE kids. We signed up for our first this winter which was bowling. Our first day was pure chaos. DS screamed everytime he missed a pin (even with bumpers), kicked the ball return, threw stuff, etc. I was so happy because I was surrounded by parents who "understood". The older kids were cheering him on (even other AS kids). Fast-forward 5 weeks and I couldn't believe the change. He was calm, happy actually enjoying himself. Cheering on others. when he got his trophy for participating, I never saw a smile so big.
We are so happy to have the Challenger teams. Parents are supportive, it's non competitive and Vaughn is learning at HIS pace how to be a part of a team. He's now excited for baseball to start in April.
Give it a try!
Shelley
Yeah It's a Challenger team too. Right then, dh or not we are going for it!!
Dee
Isaac was in an intro to baseball thing last summer.
Has Liam ever played or participated in a typical activity that dad has seen? That is what made the difference for my DH. He saw it was definitely needed.
However, we did do challenger baseball. The problem was that Mike really isn't a team kind of dude. He still didn't really get the game. Then there is the whole problem of our kids being stuck in the great middle. To disabled to be normal, too normal to be disabled.
I was talking to my SIL about it today (with an HFA but definitely autistic) son. All these activities definitely have much more obviously disabled children but our kids can't do the typical activities either. It is like the big wide monster crack they fall through.
I would give it a try though. Baseball may be his thing and this is definitely a low stress way to learn the game.
The people were wonderful. We were always welcome there for sure. Mike just didn't like baseball.
Renee