Sry I've been MIA and a vent
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| Wed, 03-21-2007 - 12:45am |
Sorry I've been gone so long guys, between this move and my school, and getting both kids IEPs squared away, by the time bedtime rolls around, I'm ready to crash.
Okay, now on to the rant. Victor is screwing around in school. Now I don't know how much of it is the AS and how much is the fact that he's 10 years old and a genius, and trying to see what he can get away with not doing. He's started answering a lot of questions in science ( one of his long time obessions) with I don't know. Well not 6 months ago, the teachers were yelling at him that he didn't write anything, so I told him that if time ran out and it's the only question he didn't know the answer to, to write "I don't know". Now they are telling him that that answer is not good enough. I will be so glad when we're in a school system that pays attention to routine and cares about the kids. Department of Defense schools keep their kids on a strict schedule so that the kids know what is expected of them, when a child has an IEP, they don't "interpret" it after the meeting. This poor kid is trying like hell to do his best and is going to end up with a D for this quarter in science. When I ask him what's going on, he said "But Mama, it's hard when it could be 1 answer, 2 answers or 5 answers. " I'm assuming that that means he needs the questions clarified for him. Of course I can't talk to the teacher til next week because she's taken time off for a wedding. Now that's not her fault of course, I wish her sister very well, I'm just frustrated because I don't know how much of this is Victor "playing" people (which he does have a history of doing, will explain later) or the school just not being remotely adequate to teach children.
Victor does have a habit of "playing" people. When he was 6 and then again last year, he would tell his teachers that because I forgot to give him his medication, he couldn't concentrate. Luckily, he had teachers then that informed Vic that even tho he didn't take his medication, he needed to TRY to do his best. Of course after realizing that he wasn't gonna get away with it, he settled down and did remarkably well those days. Just goes to show that teachers make the difference.
Okay, rant done, feeling better now. Thanks for listening.
Alexis

the teachers were yelling at him that he didn't write anything
Where they really yelling at him? Or was this a figure of speech? I would have a hissy fit if my kids teacher did that. Studies show yelling does nothing for a child but feel scared.
so I told him that if time ran out and it's the only question he didn't know the answer to, to write "I don't know". Now they are telling him that that answer is not good enough.
My child gets confused on how to answer people, especially teachers, and classmates. He sees the teacher as an authority figure, and he sees I am too. He hates questions from anybody.
I try to roll play on what he can say, but he freaks as he will forget what to say, or what to write when the time comes. I suggest a note in his pocket and he is afraid he will loose it. I suggest writing on his hand and he’s worried his hand will sweat, and it will rub off and he will forget.
This poor kid is trying like hell to do his best and is going to end up with a D for this quarter in science.
Don’t’ worry about grades, worry about him. My son has completely shut down in school that the last quarter he hasn’t been able to be graded. I decided I will worry more about his emotional state than the grades, as I really feel his shut down mode has been geared more towards the teachers attitudes than what he can accomplish.
When I ask him what's going on, he said "But Mama, it's hard when it could be 1 answer, 2 answers or 5 answers. " I'm assuming that that means he needs the questions clarified for him.
Yes he does, and the teachers need to help him with this.
Of course I can't talk to the teacher til next week because she's taken time off for a wedding. Now that's not her fault of course, I wish her sister very well, I'm just frustrated because I don't know how much of this is Victor "playing" people (which he does have a history of doing, will explain later) or the school just not being remotely adequate to teach children.
Go to the principle. I have more contact and info going to the principle than I do the teacher, cuz I can’t stand her. She is not a good teacher when it comes to special needs, she has no clue. She would rather tell me, and my child he is lazy than do anything about it.
Victor does have a habit of "playing" people. When he was 6 and then again last year, he would tell his teachers that because I forgot to give him his medication, he couldn't concentrate.
My son has done this. He was pushed in the corner with his teacher, blaming him on why he couldn’t do his work, why he couldn’t do his homework and my son was very confused. So the easiest thing for my son to do was to agree with her. Just because he couldn’t process everything she said at the time.
He told her a lie. He said yeah my mom let me go to a boyscouts carnival instead of doing homework on such and such a date…. Which wasn’t true.
He said “I can crack my mom, I can crack her whenever I want too.
BUT the truth was….. I made him stay home and do the homework (which believe me wasn’t easy) while my dh and younger son left in a different car.
When the teacher told me that, my gut instinct came up. I knew what he said wasn’t true, and that made me wonder.
Anyway, just a different opinion here. Maybe you should look into why your child is doing what he’s doing… because I believe any child that is labeled lazy in school does have something underneath going on….