Starting a social skills program, Input?

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Starting a social skills program, Input?
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Tue, 06-03-2003 - 3:25pm
So I have not been thrilled with what the kids have been getting through social skills at school. Tired of chasing my tail teaching social skills after some event comes up and I am writing my own to do at home. Had a good idea I thought I would share. Would love any input to on how to make it better.

There are more than social skills to it, and got some ideas from DH, some from a program I saw on the internet.

So here it is. I found a business card holder and bought colored index cards. I have cut the index cards into small enough flashcards that are business card size. Then laminated them.

On Many of the flash cards I have a word and picture on the front of some social skill (Be Flexible, be kind, be polite, etc) On the back are short hints at what those mean. For be flexible it says "things don't always have to be my way. How can I let someone have their way?"

Then I will write social stories related to the skill. We will read one social story, then go over what that means. A little lesson. Then they carry that social cue card around for that day and try to practice that one skill. The card is a little visual reminder.

For some other skills there are other cards with simple checklist reminders of things they need to learn in the community. How to use a vending machine, order fast food, steps for having a conversation, how to change a conversation, shopping, etc. THese are kept in the car and we will pull them out and go over them when a situation is coming that it may be usefull. I have social stories or lessons for all these things and these are just little cue cards they can keep in their pockets and use out whereever.

So anyone have any ideas for improvements?

Renee

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Tue, 06-03-2003 - 9:26pm
Renee, I think that sounds great. It sounds a lot like the program we use that my partner and I designed. We based ours off of Dale Carnegie's book How To Win Friends and Influence People. We also use Social Stories and the Asperger Adventures series.

How To Win Friends And Influence People has lists of things a person must understand or do (or not do as the case may be) in order to really get along with others. He shares stories on how his students have overcome situations related to each point. The very first point made is "Don't criticize, condemn, or complain." LOL,DH said "YEAH RIGHT!" (in his best Bill Cosby voice) when he first read that. But the book is very well writen and easy reading. He has read it 8 times in the last 5 years and keeps a copy in his lunch box now. He says that the Dale Carnegie book has made a huge difference in not only how he acts around people but how he looks at them in general.

I think the only sugestion I can make is for you to read that book. Personally I think everyone should read it. I think it should be requried reading in grade school. Oh wait, for my kids it was, LOL.

Candes

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Wed, 06-04-2003 - 9:49am
It sounds great Renee! I did something similar to help Tim through grade one. I had a folder full of simple diagrams and sentences that led you through whatever situation was applicable. It really helped Tim through some rough spots.

I can't suggest anything to improve on what you have done. It sounds like a winner. Great work!

Larissa

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