Substitute Teacher Gripe

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Substitute Teacher Gripe
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 3:51pm
Hi again,

Today Billy's regular teacher was out and Billy had some trouble so I ended up having to stay outside the classroom. This is not at all new for us as I've been attending preschool with Billy for a looooong time. This year we got an awesome teacher and I'm finally able to go home and get some stuff done. Billy has really attached to her. However, she is out today and tomorrow & a sub he doesn't know is filling in. He's got mamjor anxiety issues so this reaction isn't a surprise. At the end of the day, the sub comes out and in front of another parent goes "Oh I feel so bad that you had to stay. He did fine, you know you really should just tell him that you are going home and then go." I just looked at her. This woman has known my son all of 2 hours. I tried to explain his IEP, meds and everything else and she's like well you just have to be firm. I've got a 14 year old son with AS and I've been there done that. I'm getting more and more embarrassed as she's lecturing me about what I need to do with Billy. Finally, I told her that we couldn't afford the setback that leaving him would cause. I could have smacked her. I thought she acted rather unprofessionally, saying all that right in front of another parent. It's taken 4 years to get where we are. If only it was as easy as just "telling" Billy what he has to do.LOL I'd have saved a fortune on therapy!!




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Registered: 07-11-2003
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 8:24am


Some people just don't get it. And some peolpe are subs because they can't get a regular job as a teacher due to their horrible characters. I hope tomorrow goes better for you, and for Billy.

Candes (who does not mean to imply that all substitute teachers have mulitple character deffects....just this one)

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 9:34am
I'm guessing this woman was very young, and thought she knew everything about everything.

Do you remember those days? They were *great*! (actually, I sometimes get flashbacks and act that way again myself!)

In some ways I hope it stays fine for her, but not at the expense of any child, particularly yours.

She will learn. It will just take time.


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