suspended yet again

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suspended yet again
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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 2:56am

Sorry I haven't been on in a few weeks, but now I need to vent.


Mollie Photobucket

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 4:24am
The Principal called you on a Sunday morning to tell you she was suspending your child? Was she too busy on Saturday having her hair done? What about Friday night? Don't they have to provide a tutor at the school's expense if he has been suspended for that length of time? That's what they have to do here and believe me there are a lot fewer out of school suspensions than before. I would complain to the person in charge of your district's special ed. There is no way this child should have to figure out the school work by himself and the length of the suspension is totally excessive for the supposed crime.
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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 9:02am

First of all there is no doubt in my mind this principal has it in for your ds. Imo, the fact that the teacher never even wrote it up and thus there is no paper trail, the principal is way out of line. Get a hold of the head of the District Spec Ed as well as the superintendents office.

Principals like this one think they are above protocol. I would bet my nelly s/he is creating documented evidence with an agenda to getting your ds out of her school, or to get you so fed up you take him out. Could you push for an IEP meeting too to look at changes in supports and modifications, as obviously hes not having his needs met here.

hth

Dee (fuming with you)

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 11:44am

Yes. What Dee said.


This principal has an agenda and it doesn't include your son's best interests. Her behaviour is inappropriate at best, illegal at worst.


Go over her head as many levels as possible and create a HUGE stink.


-Paula

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 12:26pm
The problem is he's in Catholic school.


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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 2:18pm

Hi,


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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 3:49pm

I keep forgetting he is Catholic school. Sorry.


If he were younger, I would say to take the hint and consider changing his placement to public school. But he is in 4th grade, right? Will he be switching for middle school in 6th grade? If so, you'd really think the school would be willing to work with you rather than take this nasty approach.


I would ask the principal for a sit-down meeting and try and hash out some options and guidelines, including asking for a written explanation why such an

-Paula

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 4:07pm

Having taught in a private Episcopal school I can tell you (at least in MD) the school can remove the child after a certain extent of a papertrail, which is what I think this principal is up to. Where I worked if a student was not ahem "fitting in" (kwim) there would be a slew of parent teacher meetings followed up by administrational involvement and eventually a recommendation that the child leave, (usually at the end of a semester, but sometimes parents would pull them sooner) Is this a k-8 or k-12 school; if so I would guess this nasty principal is trying to pressure him out. I know where I taught, they would red flag these kids in Kindergarden and unless they were legacies they were alwyas out by first grade. It's terrible unfair, but I do know I taught a lot of kids who barely got by in private and didn't get any supports as the private school isn't legally bound by FAPE. I think a sit down with the principal is warranted before this gets totally out of hand. Make sure ds isnt there and you bring another adult into the meeting, whether that be dh/so or even another family member. Bring paper and pen and write anything down that jumps out at you, comments from the principal, teacher etc.

Does your ds get services through the public school system? If so I would check with them what your ds is entitled to and also to see what programs are available to him if you do decide to pull him.

GL

Dee

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 10:29pm

We had a long meeting with his therapist today, who has also been working as a mediator for us with the school.


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Wed, 01-16-2008 - 9:16am

I am very familiar with risperdal. Liam was on it for over a year. After a while though it kind of funked out on him and he had the side effect of weight gain. Risperdal is known as an antipsychotic that can help with mood, especially aggression and anger. If anxiety is your dss trigger risperdal may or may not work. I can tell you risperdal works very fast so you should see an improvement within days. It may also make him sleepy at first, but after a while the body will adapt.

I would recommend you keep a journal from now until a few weeks into the med trial. Just a few lines at night to sum up his day. Think his emotional response to situations, rather than the events themselves.

GL

Dee

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