To take a risk or stick with safe choice?

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Registered: 01-07-2008
To take a risk or stick with safe choice?
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 6:10pm

I have to help Euan chose two activities for his school open days. There are lots of 'high risk' things on offer - eg white water rafting, a trip to a theme park, canoeing, sailing, things that he'd need a lot of support with and even if he had it he might go off the rails and not be able to take part (or he might have the most wonderful day of his life, who knows???) - and lots of 'safe' options - eg cooking sessions at school, swimming days, horseriding lessons, gaming sessions.

Euan is *desperate* to try white water rafting. He is, as I type, camping out with his scout troupe and going on a 6 hour hike up some serious ravines, without 'extra' help, although he has been with the troupe for 3 years and they know him very well and give him a lot of support. However, he also got sent home early from a school trip last year for losing it with a teacher after he fell into the river, and he's been thrown off a climbing course for attacking another student for not following the instructions. So it can go either way with these things.

I can't just listen to mummy gut instinct on this because mummy gut instinct is completely torn. I seriously want him to try stuff and have a great time - and would rather he tried, and failed, than didn't try at all. But I also do NOT want him drowning because he misunderstands the safety instructions or pushing someone off the raft because they didn't follow the rules. I've spoken to the school about it and his ASN support teacher is of the opinion that Euan should not be excluded from any activity he wants to do and they will provide extra support if necessary.

WWYD? Most of the 'safe' options are things that do not really interest him so he wouldn't take part in them...He's doing so *well* at school at the moment - we just had

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Fri, 03-04-2011 - 7:45am

Staff of a school have be accomidating of all children, and invisible disabilities among them.

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Registered: 01-25-2007
Fri, 03-04-2011 - 4:26am

I am frequently reminded of a quote I read from Temple Grandin. She said"Asperger's is an absence of experience". It is always so much easier to take the safe and familiar road, particularly when it seems that we never get a break from "the battle".

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Registered: 10-03-2003
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 10:14am

I have no suggestions because I feel the same way as you are feeling based on the activity choice.

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Registered: 02-28-2008
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 9:21am

Caren makes some good points.

Andrea, mom to