Taking him out of school
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|Tue, 05-18-2010 - 2:09pm|
I've mentioned before that David (12, AS) has been having a lot of anxiety about school since about Spring Break. It's a long story, but the bottom line is that we decided to take him out and homeschool him. I considered posting this on the hs board, but I've been here longer, and there are more people here who "know" us.
When I contacted the school with my decision, they said they wanted to have an IEP meeting first. So, yesterday I went to this meeting, not sure what to expect. The special ed director (a post occupied by a different individual each time, it seems) kept saying that although I have a right to take him out and homeschool him, the district has an obligation to do everything in their power to give him his Free Appropriate Public Education.
Honestly, I just want to get him out of there. However, the special ed director suggested that perhaps for the rest of the school year, a teacher could come to our house 5 hours/week to work one-on-one with David to get him caught up and squared away for the rest of the year.
I wanted to ask, "What would be the point of that, since we're taking him out anyway?" but before I could think of a diplomatic way to phrase that, his special ed teacher volunteered to be the one to do that. She's a really nice lady, and I know she misses David and cares about him. Everyone started nodding, and saying things like, "Oh yes, that would be perfect. It would provide some closure." I didn't feel right just turning down that offer without consulting DH.
DH seemed to think it sounded okay, but maybe that's because I introduced the topic with a positive spin, and he took it to mean that I like the idea. We both can see that it might be a good idea politically, but not necessarily for David.
I brought it up to David this morning and he buried his head in the couch cushions and shouted something I won't repeat. Honestly, I can't imagine David and Ms. H. sat here in our house doing school work. So, I think I'm going to have to decline that offer. I feel kind of bad about it, though. The district would be paying Ms. H. extra to do that, and I admit I like that idea, since they're laying her off at the end of the year. However, my first priority needs to be for David, not the teacher. I think for now, he needs a break from school.
Well, just wanted to share all this. Nothing like laying all your private stuff onto the internet to get things off your chest. :)