Teasing versus Lying

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Teasing versus Lying
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Fri, 09-17-2010 - 1:48pm

I could use some of your experience in how to handle this one for my DS3 ASD. He has recently started trying to tease and has the appropriate devilish grin to go with it. I was excited to see this as it indicates (to me at least) that all the speech is taking effect. However, for the past 2 weeks, he has started lying. I did not think ASDs could do this. He is very good at it. He chooses something plausible and can blend it right into his conversation without any instance of awkwardness. He will tell DH that we went places we did not go (ex: grocery store), tell him a gentleman came to visit (took me 3 days to figure out he was talking about the A/C repair man who came in June), different meals for dinner than those cooked, etc.

Now, with a NT kid, I would laugh with a tease and then explain a lie, but with my Aspie, I need a VERY distinct definition between the two. Keep in mind this fine line between the 2 will be tested to the upteenth degree until he is satisfied that he understands the difference.

How have you handled this?
Caren

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Fri, 09-17-2010 - 3:26pm

There is a developmental stage that children go through with behavior that looks like lying, but really isn't. Call it 'reality testing'. I think your child may just be going through this.

All the experts I've read say to just matter of factly respond to such things with 'Oh, I bet you wish we had that for dinner', or 'Oh, you must mean the AC repairman came'.

Actual lying will come later on - especially when they are trying to get out of being in trouble. That's when you call them on it and explain the difference between truth and lie.

I wouldn't worry about things too much at his age.

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson
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Fri, 09-17-2010 - 5:06pm