To tell or not to tell other parents?
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|Sat, 05-31-2003 - 9:30am|
My question is should I tell this friend's parents that ds has Asperger's or not? Most people have never heard of it so they generally just think ds is "weird", "interesting", has "odd quirks", but otherwise is a good kid. He doesn't like change much but is more adaptive than other AS kids I think. He's very polite and follows rules w/ other people and is very helpful. I'm just wondering if when I see the family today if I should mention it to them? And if so - how should I go about doing this? I tried talking to dh about it last night - about being hesitant to tell them and he seems to think (despite me saying otherwise) that I don't need to be embarrassed by AS. But that's not it! He finally has a friend and I'm so scared if I say something, they'll treat him different or it might somehow affect this friendship. And this is a good friend too - the kid is great, he's not annoying or rude or violently playful like lots of the other kids he has played w/ before. (And this kid loves legos and bionicles too so ds's obsession isn't "weird" to him - lol) Part of me says I should tell them so they can maybe understand why he acts the way he does (and dh thinks they won't know what it is so they'll look it up and become informed). I know this family at my church - their teenage ds has AS and when I first met him, I thought "man, he's a little weird" (I didn't know what AS was) but once the mom told me what he had, I was like "oh, okay" and that was it. I didn't understand AS though until 2 years later when I began to suspect my ds had it. But knowing the info on this family's ds made it easier for me to know why he acted the way he did. So part of me says I should tell ds's friend's parents. But another part of me is scared b/c I don't want him to lose his friend.
What should I do??? lol! I'm so nervous about this and ds it taking it all in stride! Now who's the one who needs therapy? lol!