Thank you very much for the information on AS and for not assuming I was just being nosy. I have to say tho, that of what I read and can compare to the behavior I've seen of DH's nephew, which is limited by the way, I don't know that he would qualify. We only see him once in a while as we live nearly an hour apart and SIL is very, shall I say "strange", about the things she wants to do so that her children can spend time with family. The only thing specifically mentioned that I have seen him do is the repetitive body movements (he hops up and down and flaps his arms and hands, much like a chicken would). Some other things SIL and MIL have told us he's done are to throw tantrums, pick fights and throw things at his teachers.. things that I, myself, would consider to be him acting out against the fact that his parents are going thru a very messy divorce and he's been moved out of his home and away from his school friends. His younger brother is doing some similiar things, altho his go a little more to the extreme it seems.
I don't know. Maybe this is all just me... SIL is younger than I am and has 3 children. We definitely have different ideas on child rearing so I could just be "looking" for something, y'know? But I really don't think I am. The children are, and have been for as long as I've known them, constantly bounced from place to place with people to watch them and some of this behavior just seems like it might be thier way of saying "hey, mom, down here !! could you sit with me a while?" Then again, I could be very wrong. Either way, the children are the ones that are losing out here and I hate to see that happen.