They knew and didn't tell me

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They knew and didn't tell me
Sat, 11-27-2010 - 10:14am

Lauren's preschool suspected that she was on the spectrum and did not tell us.

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Tue, 11-30-2010 - 5:16pm

I'm so sorry about this. I could feel your pain and frustration reading your post. I hope you can repair your relationships, particularly with your brother, but I can imagine it will be hard.

I think it can be hard for friends and family. I know I've seen 'red flags' sometimes and mentioned something, and it has caused no end of grief. I've nearly lost friends over it.

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Registered: 06-25-2005
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 4:31pm

Like you, I'd be very upset.

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Sat, 11-27-2010 - 6:42pm

Several years ago, I told my sister that I thought her son was on the spectrum.

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Registered: 01-25-2007
Sat, 11-27-2010 - 6:07pm

While I understand your hurt, many parents would be completely offended to have a family member or friend "diagnose" their child. You sound like you would be one of the few open-minded parents out there. The truth is only a professional can really diagnose ASDs. My nephew has all the red flags my aspie has, but his parents just insist he is lazy and unmotivated because he chooses to act that way. They cannot be convinced otherwise. Many parents put blinders on and refuse to see that there is any problem. It is also very easy after the fact to say "I knew it all along". There really is nothing to be gained by all the what-ifs. Your daughter is very young and she is now getting the help she needs. That is the important thing.

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Sat, 11-27-2010 - 6:03pm


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