? for those with olders kids ie puberty
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? for those with olders kids ie puberty
| Mon, 01-30-2006 - 8:31am |
my son will is in 5th grade and his class is scheduled to watch a movie called "Growing Up" this Friday.It deals with puberty issues and the boys and girls will be seperated.Last year,I arranged to watch it with him alone after school,but this year he wants to watch it with the boys in his class.I'm not concerned about the content as we've talked about it but more so about inappropriate comments he might make.He is very immature and I'm sure the others kids will giggle too which could"egg" him on if you know what I mean.He is mainstreamed the majority of the day so the others know him and understand his"quirks." What would you do? He really wants to watch it with the class and I've told him if he does he can't laugh or make silly comments.
TIA!!!!!!!
Laura
TIA!!!!!!!
Laura

Hi Laura,
My son is also in 5th grade. I too was worried about the same things you are. My son often doesn't bring papers home on time and I get things a week or more late. This is what happened with the puberty talk. It turned out to be a good thing because then I didn't get worked up about it. At my ds's school they didn't do it as a whole class but in groups of 8-10 boys. The principal, who I have a good relationship with, led the groups. Apparently it went well, without the inappropriate comments, or I would have heard about it. Ds didn't mention it at all at home untill I asked after seeing the paper. His only comment was "gross". He doesn't want to go through puberty :) I tell him good, don't! LOL Is your guy showing any signs? Mine has developed BO but no other signs, thank goodness.
Oh, so I guess my answer is let him see it with the class and try not to worry. So what if he says inappropriate comments. My guess is that's a pretty typical response for all the boys. They all love to potty talk and be gross. Its just a boy thing, IMO.
Samantha
Thanks for the reply,his teacher seems to think he'll be fine watching it with the other boys(i e-mailed her) so I'm just worrying for nothing,which i tend to do with him anyway!I totally relate to getting papers late,he also has ADHD and is a disorganized mess no matter how hard i try
He is getting some signs,he has BO too,I gave him some deoderant but he doesn't put it on all the time.He also is getting some body hair,really just peach fuzz since he's blonde.I survived his sister thru puberty,hopefully I survive this too!
Thanks!
Laura
You know Kyle didn't like deoderant. I'm sure its the feel. He loves the axe body spray he got in his stocking for Christmas though.
Kyle is my fristborn. So you think puberty is survivable? lol
Samantha
By the way,my neighbor mentioned that she bought her son some Axe body spray,I think I'll go get some for him to try!
Laura
My oldest is only 8, so we've got a ways to go (thank goodness), but when I heard there was a deoderant called "axe" I just had to jump in. I have a pretty good idea of what would happen in our house if I gave him something called "axe" to put on his armpits:
He'd be in the bathroom, dancing like a goofball in front of the mirror, shouting REPEATEDLY, "Look at me, I'm chopping up my armpit with an axe!" I'm sure there would be plenty of sound effects, and that he would do it over and over again. It would soon escalate to other body parts. His little brother would come running, and next thing I know, they'd both be doing it, LOUDLY, with as much mess as humanly possible. They would have to be separated, mostly to help David get under control. So, he'd be in one room, jumping on the bed and shouting obnoxious things. Nathan would be angry at having to stop playing, and he'd be in his room, thowing toys all around in a huff.
Hopefully by the time David is old enough for deodorant, things will have changed a bit. Somehow I doubt it, though. LOL!
Evelyn
My aspie girl had it last year in 5th grade. I was a bit nervous but she did fine. I am sure she likely said a thing or 2 that weren't socially appropriate but the teacher knew about her and handled it well.
We have been working on all those puberty topics at home, but somehow it just was recieved better coming from the teacher. We are having a heck of a time with self-help and hygeine skills at least as far as making them independent. I can talk til I am blue in the face about deordorant but unless I am right there and cue her through using it, forget it. However, when the teacher mentioned it in class and her therapist taught her about it, she was much more motivated to try.
It is definitely though a skill that is going to take a long time in mastering.
BTW, you are lucky. Trying having an Aspie Girl go through puberty! There are just hygiene things that you don't even have to Worry about. Nuf said!
My Aspie boy will likely have this talk next year. Not sure how they will do it though since he is in a special day class. Quite possibly he will have to go in with the mainstream kids for this. Oh boy! That aught to be fun for that topic. lol.
Renee