My most severely effected had other issues that clouded her autistic symptoms, so I won't talk about her. But, my other two...
Eva seemed perfectly normal until a few weeks after her second birthday, except that she had been an unusually quiet baby. She had her opinions of things, but rarely cried or complained. She had a lot of original speech, good motor functions, etc. Then, within the span of two weeks, she lost a lot of her original speech, though she did continue to talk. But it was mostly repeated phrases heard on TV and video games. Her eye contact largely went away. She went from dancing around gracefully to bumping into things and falling over, even when she was watching where she was going. She seemed to stop having opinions all together, and developed what appeared to be a severe lack of interest in anything but her teletubby doll and her toddler computer game. All of that happened within 2 weeks. A few years later she became very loud, lots of meltdowns, crying and screaming almost all the time. She even broke my hand once!
Ayla, on the other hand, was loud at the beginning. She seemed very sensitive to light and sound from just a few days old. The doctors said that would subside within a month or two, but it never did. At 22 months... let me see... she was very sweet to some people, but not to me. She made no bones about preferring her dad over me, no matter the situation. She had no sense of danger at all, and her speech was severely behind. Her motor skills were okay, but she had no interest in using them. She had no sense of right or wrong at that age either, not even a beginnings. She tried several times to kill her baby sister. Now though, she's sweet to everyone, including me. She's very quiet, hardly ever says boo. She's come a long way (she's 19yo now).
None. With hindsight (always a wonderful thing!) he was too 'good' as a baby - very quiet, watchful, self-contained and undemanding. Fed and slept beautifully, very contented, slightly delayed walking but nothing out of the ordinary, speech development and everything else fine. Some episodes of extreme stranger fear when we changed daycare, but we just put that down to changing daycare. First 'red flags' were at around the 2 1/2 mark - started lashing out, 'unprovoked', fairly viciously, biting and strangling other children. Later this made sense - when he was overwhelmed, frightened, threatened, sensory overload etc - but at the time the 'threats' made no sense (we didn't really see the noises issues and the not-following-the-rules issues until much much later, so to us these episodes would just come out of the blue). Some fussiness around clothing, sand, labels, shoes, routines etc, at the 3-4 age, but again, nothing 'extreme'. His NT brother did lining stuff up, spinning, stimming etc, and had all the professionals worried, but the actual Aspie never did!
Several of my friends were slightly hypervigilant at this stage and 'saw' signs of everything imaginable (ASD, SID, ADHD etc) in their kids that all turned out to be nothing, and I saw nothing much in my kid
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I tried to reply to your post all weekend, but it was just one thing after another and my post never made it up. However, your son sounds a bit like ours. He's 3, and his 8 year old sister is the one we believe has AS (5 years of professional back and forth on that now, btw). My daughter's OT told us our son was low tone when he was about 18 months, and we knew he was a little behind on language, but we didn't pursue therapy at that time. He was so completely different from his sister, socially and in other ways, that we didn't suspect ASD. We just assumed, and his pediatrician agreed, that he was growing on his own schedule.
At his last check-up, though, things changed. His pediatrician listened to him talk (largely not talk) and sent us to Child Find for a speech evaluation. Preliminary screening suggests significant language delays. So far his gross motor skills are just managing to meet the cutoff, but he got a "caution" in fine motor and another in social. It just feels different, though. At 3 our daughter had the vocabulary of an educated adult and lectured us on everything. Our son has relatively few words, and stings them together in odd ways, but communicates better than his sister ever did. He wants to communicate, even if it's hard to get the words out, if that makes sense.
If you're worried you should seek an evaluation specifically for austism spectrum disorders, with experts in that area. When my daughter was first referred to Child Find at age 4 she didn't even qualify for a referral to a full evaluation in any area. They were testing for milestone skills, and she had those. Her deficits were more subtle. However, after her ASD evaluation, with recommendations for services, she qualified for full time preschool, and 4 years later she still gets OT services and classroom modifications. ASD professionals just look for different things.
Well please know your child doesn't have to have a dx or be on the spectrum to belong to this board. We are all in this together, no matter what needs our children have.
Please know that some kids who are high functioning don't get dx'd this young, so stick around, learn a few things and wether he is spectrum or not, you will get some great support!
Thank you for your replies!! I keep wondering if something will jump out at me when I read about other kids' quirks, habits, behaviors, etc. and it just doesn't. Of course I realize that doesn't mean that my fella isn't on the spectrum.
My son, Sean, is 22 months and has low muscle tone. We've been told that we could either consider it to be on the low side of normal or on the high side of low. Either way it's an issue. :) His delays could just be that or definitely tied to something more. It's just a waiting game for us and it drives me batty because I just want to know. We had him evaluated at 17.5 months and he qualified for OT and not speech. He barely made it into early intervention, but I'm so thankful he did. He is now going to speech and OT over the summer while we wait for intervention to pick back up. He says about 40 words, but we don't always hear them. The SLP thinks a big part of his problem is behavioral. But I don't want to just blame things on that either. I can see that to a degree and we are trying REALLY hard to make him ask us for things, but it's hard...the whining. ugh!! His receptive speech is pretty much on track, it's his expressive that is behind. He's making progress so that's what I try to stay focused on, but boy do I wish I had a crystal ball into the future!!
DS at 4 months wouldn't transition to eating real food. It took until he was 2 until he would eat, and then he would only eat things in a repetition manner
For example, only baloney, cut up grapes and parmasean cheese ONLY when it was shredded. I couldn't get him to eat unless I put out sliced oranges in front of him. He would never ask.
He is still the same way at 14. His sleep problems came later. When I would rock him to sleep he would arch his back and be angry that I did so.
He started "being obsessed with things" after that. He would beg for me to pull monolopy down from the closet so he could spend hours lining the pieces up. I know this happened before he was 3 because I was obsessed on chocking hazards lol. They had to be bigger than a quarter so I would take the monolopy peices and hold them up to a quarter lol.
He became obsessed regarding balls and everything shaped with balls. In fact some friends took him to a pumpkin patch when I had to go to the docs and he became so obsessed and so needed to sleep with the pumpkin because it was a ball shape.
He would never play normally with toys. I would buy him things (And I love going to Toys R us) and he would just ignore it. I bought him a kitchen for christmas one year and he had nothing to do with it. He became very engrossed with Pokimon at a very early age and would obsess. Years later I realized he didn't want to "play the game" he just wanted to sort the cards and put them in order. If you messed up his order, then there was hell to pay lol.
He would get bitten by another child and run from me instead of to me. I always thought that was strange. He would get into a situation with another child and react soooo much bigger than I would expect another child too. It was weird.
The weird things that you notice, you need to wright them down as sometimes we have a feeling that doesn't match with the situation but we really didn't know why at the time.
My child didn't get dx'd until 11 believe it or not, but thats only because I had no access to the internet at the time. I listened to parents instead when I asked "How come he's not talking yet?" They said well he's a boy. That is no reason. Pls don't listen to people who say this.
My 10 yr old is also dx'd but he had totally different symptons starting out. Now he is having huge meltdowns over transistions and has an added bonus of Tourettes including coprolalia and Copraxia (the swearing tic and the obsense actions tic).
I have one child that is calm in most situations (but can get extreme with rages if you try to control his situation) but considered lower functioning, while my other child is considered higher functioning but having meltdowns all over the place... UGH.
Remember they are ALL different with different needs.
The thing that concerned us most when DS was that age (not quite 2) was