feel free to ask as many questions as you need to, It's what the board is here for and we have all been through those night ansd days too.
I think your son is lucky to have such a wonderful teacher and it is probably a good idea to try and adjust his schedule at this point. Maybe next year he will be able to transition from therapy back to the classroom. You have to try and find what works for him now, and then graduate him to a rountine that may work for everyone else! Baby steps.
Transitions are tough. soem thing swhich worked for us:
routine routine routine
We have a very strict routine in our house especially during the week, even down to the order in which we get dressed. If things are taken out of order, he will get very upset.
Advanced notification of changeWe warn DS in advance (sevral times) is a routine is going to change and let him know his routine for the day: Today we will be going to grandma's house and we will eat lunch there -or whatever; so there are no surprises. There may still be a tantrum when the change occurs, but nowhere near as bad as it would have been were he blindsided by it.
timers:we use timers for a lot -a five miinute warning and then set the timer: toime to come in for dinner, time to get out of the pool. We both wear watches with electronic timers. People give us funny looks sometimes, but are then very impressed when two munchkins leave the park without a fight.
OOps gotta go. DS just came in and told me "it's "time for homework now, not computer" LOL
It sounds like a good idea to me.