Trying so hard to give all kids 1 on 1
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| Fri, 06-22-2007 - 9:54pm |
So here's the thing, lately when ever Cian needs my attention due to a fall, boo boo etc, Liam at first seems all concerned and is running around trying t find things to make Cian happy again (toys etc), but even after I explain that right now Cian is just needing to cry or cuddle, Liam continues to get in Cian's space, being overbearing and after a while it starts to look like Liam just can not bear the thought that Cian can get all this indididual attention.
When Cian fell and cut his mouth last week, he was in pieces and I spent a good portion of the crucial immediate aftermath trying to get Liam out of our space space. Then tonight poor Cian was stung by a hornet (a now very very DEAD hornet, after Dh went for it, lol). Cian was beside himself, the feckin' bug had drawn blood; still Liam was ankle biting me the entire time, and I ended up yelling at him (I know bad me), as I needed to get Cian what he needed without Liam being a part of it.
This is constant, I realized it a lot more this week as Liam was in day camp, but Cian was home with us for 3 hours without Liam each day. Let me tell you, it was a delightful experience to have Cian, Roan and dh around without Admiral Aspie ruling the seas. Oh well, just shows to go how much we need respite.
Any advice as to how to get Liam away from the scene when Cian, or Roan needs one on one?
Dee







Dee,
I'm reminded of the scene in the original Shrek movie when Shrek was hit by an arrow, and Fiona sent Donkey to find a blue flower with red leaves (or something).
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(((Dee))) I wish I had some great advice for you, but as usual all I can do is let you know that you're not alone. Up until a few months ago, anytime Natalie got hurt Lily would freak out and start crying and say "No cry!!!" She just couldn't take the sound of Natalie crying I guess. I always felt so bad for Natalie because it was like she wasn't even allowed to cry without getting Lily's permission first. So it was really frustrating because Natalie being injured or even just upset about something would cause Lily to have a meltdown and before I knew it I was dealing with two crying kids. Not much fun, that's for sure. I never did figure out how to get Lily to stop doing that, but at some point she just kinda moved on. She still doesn't have much sympathy if someone else gets hurt, but at least she doesn't tell the other person to not cry anymore. I hope that maybe you can find some type of distraction that will allow you to help one child without the interference of another one. It seems like all the parenting situations just seem to be tougher when you're dealing with one or more children with an ASD. At least it seems that way to me.
Amy~Natalie & Lily's mom