Two-Kid Collision

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Two-Kid Collision
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Fri, 02-16-2007 - 3:47pm

Okay, first oof all, the reason I haven't been around for a while is mostly because of work, work, work, work... And then my computer completely crashed. I had to wipe the memory and reformat. BUT, I had just backed up everything a few days prior, so I didn't loose anything of major importance.

Anyhoo, on a separate note...

A few days ago my 7yo Aspie, Eva, was out playing with some friends and, being Eva, wasn't watching where she was going. She stepped in front of her buddy J as he was careening down the street on his razor scooter and they collided. Now, J is 10yo, a boy, and twice her size, so she ended up bouncing off him and taking a header, face first, into the curb. She's okay over all, but she has a big scrape and bruise over the right side of her face from cheekbone to chin, two skinned knees, a skinned shin, and a broken finger. Turns out the finger was actually the first thing to hit the pavement, right on the tip, and the tip broke into three pieces. But she'll be okay. In fact, she's all psyched 'cause now she's had her first official broken bone and she's been showing it off to everyone she can think of.

There was also a small incident at the ER. Everyone kept telling Eva how impressed they were with how brave she was being. At one point she just blinked at a nurse and said "I'm autistic" as if A) she should already have known that, and B) that explained everything. The nurse got a little huffy and told her she shouldn't tease people. Ave was totally confused and told the nurse, "you're right, people shouldn't tease people". The nurse then thought she was being rude and gave DH a 'look'. He says he just shrugged, which got tnurse really bent out of shape. Then our family dr, who happened to be seeing a pateient upstairs, came down to say hi and make sure the ER got her paperwork straight and that all the proper questions were asked. Well, same nurse told our dr "We do what we're doing!" To which he pointed out that his AUTISTIC PATIENT had not being seen by the ASD specialist after recieving a head injury, he knows this b/c his IS the ASD specialist (the one on call that night) so how in the world could they have asked the right questions since it's 'in her record' that she can't complete the verbal portion of the head injury exam? Nurse got pissy and told the dr "Well, the dad never said that." To which the dr replied "Dad is austic too." (and knowing my dr he gave her his "you're not too bright, are you?" look). He then proceeded to explain that just because an austic is verbal doesn't mean they fully understand what you're saying or asking them, which is why the hospital started the ASDS On Call program in the first place. He then pointed out that it was right on the front of her file jacket that she dx'd ASD. Anyhoo, he re-did the head exam, and where they had dx'd her with a cunsusion he said she didn't have one. They dx'd her with it because she 'couldn't track' on a moving pen light'. But gee, she could track on the sparkly christal pendant he keeps in his pocket for just such cases. He told me about allthis the next day when I took her in to get her in to complete the "see your regular dr" portion of her follow up care. He says most ASDs don't track on pen lights b/c it hurts their eyes and they can't get over the need to flintch away from it. Makes sense to me.

Anyway, neither DH or Eva had to actually deal with this woman enough for them to care, or really even remember her. I found all of this out from our dr the next day, DH never even mentioned any of it. Go figure.

~Candes

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Fri, 02-16-2007 - 4:56pm

Candes,


Welcome back strangerwoman! (or should that be

-Paula

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Fri, 02-16-2007 - 10:58pm

Welcome back, Candes! Sorry to hear 'bout your 'puter problems.

Like Paula said, I'm sorry that Eva is a bit banged up, but that "on call" program is incredible.

Amy

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Sat, 02-17-2007 - 11:27am
My dd does the same thing in the hospital...the staff are always impressed at her bravery. I am so sorry Eva had such an accident! Your doctor sounds like he rocks!
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Sat, 02-17-2007 - 9:45pm

My Mike is the opposite, lol. We often cause QUITE the scene. I usually have a letter in my purse for him, never for Cait. I am thinking I should though.

Actually I am considering getting those medical ID bracelets for them. In case I am not with them at some point (like when they are at school). I also want to make business cards with the info I have in my letter (it is super short) and I think that would help as well. I saw on medical alert things they even have a flash drive to put all the kids medical info on. Seems to me you can get a cheap regular flash drive and do the same, but I want something my docs can see right away without going to a puter.

Glad poor Eva is ok. Quite the crash there little one. Don't you wish you were a fly on the wall in the ER though.

Renee

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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 11:04pm

Candes!!!!!!!


Woah, Eva, my dear.

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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 12:37am

Wow, that nurse was a real jerk. Being a nurse she should really educate herself more you know?

You've got a great doc! Glad to see she's okay.

Lainie

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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 11:47am

Hi, Candes!

Wow, I hope Eva is healing nicely! I'm sure having your first broken bone is a very cool thing! I'd be showing it off if I was 7, too!

The ASD doc on call is a very cool thing! I didn't know anything about the following of lights or anything else, but I guess it makes sense and sounds just like my son! we have to go to a different hospital/walk-in clinic (because the one connected to our practice is 25 miles away!) from our normal Dr and they always look at me like I have 2 heads when I say "my son is autisc" "well, he doesn't look very affected." Good thing he's only had to go there once! and even then he just about bit the nurse when she tried to get a strep culture from his throat.

I had to laugh about that nurse, she was so clueless, and yet, she didn't phase your DH or DD. That's probably how my Dh would be as well and Man would that burn me!

Betsy

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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 3:07pm

Thanks for asking Debbie,

She's good. Right now her biggest problem is dealing with the splint. It's big and clumsy and awkward and the newness is wearing off, so now it's 'getting in her way'. She was really happy at first because she was taken off 'dinner dishes duty' for the duration, but she's recently realised that means she's going to be on 'set & clear table' for the whole time intead. Jade's happy though, she'd rather do dishes than be responsible for putting away leftovers (part of clearing the table).

We decided to use this interuption in the normal daily chores to get Angel started on doing a few. She now she's 'assistant table setter' and responsible for straightening up the entry way at the front door every day. She's lovin it, esspecially since it comes with a $1 raise in allowance, lol.

~Candes

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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 3:29pm

The ASDS On Call program is very cool, but still pretty new. And even though it's only at this one hospital the drs are still haviing poblems getting the ER to understand that they really do need to call when someone with ASD/PDD comes in. Whenever they have a thought to call for a specialist they call the developemental clinic instead, which always instructs them to call the On Call number. And the clinic usually only gets called when it's a child in question, not an adult. So the adults with ASD get overlooked if no one calls the On Call. That happened to my DH when he had a kidney stone and he ended up coming home with the wrong rx's because he didn't know how to anwser the questions about his pain levels and current meds. I'm pretty active with the dev clinic and helped the On Call program work up cards to send to all their patients that they could hand to ER staff when needed.

And my doc is pretty cool, but he kinda has to be in cases like this. He's the younger custodial brother of man with Kanner's. He takes the misunderstanding of his patients personally... which is why we love him!

~Candes

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